By Adesuwa Ewoigbokhan
Dear Adesuwa,
She is 58 years old. Each time we indulge in a sexual act, she is always dry. What lubricant do you recommend?
Osakwe, Abuja
Dear Osakwe
For vaginal dryness, especially during menopause, consider the following lubricant options:
- Water-based lubricants: Gentle, non-irritating, and easy to clean up like K-Y Jelly or Astroglide.
- Silicone-based lubricants: Long-lasting and waterproof.
- Oil-based lubricants: Natural options like coconut oil or vitamin E oil can be used, but may not be suitable for all skin types.
When choosing a lubricant: Opt for:
–hypoallergenic and fragrance-free options.
- Look for lubricants with a pH balance close to the natural vaginal pH.
Dear Adesuwa,
I have been following with keen interest your Sunday Vanguard’s column:
Could you kindly suggest an effective drug for Erectile Dysfunction?
Toko, Abuja
Dear Toko,
For erectile dysfunction, it’s best to consult a healthcare professional for personalised advice. They can recommend suitable treatments, including medications like sildenafil (Viagra) or tadalafil (Cialis), or other options like therapy or lifestyle changes.
Dear Adesuwa,
I read your article where you talked about smiling. I have 4 questions:
(1)If couples do not love themselves, can smiling change their mood.
(2) For couples who always fight each other, can smiling change their mood.
(3) I have one sister and her husband always beats her, in this situation, can smiling change it.
(4) Love and money, which of them comes first.
Daniel, Delta
Dear Daniel,
Here are some potential solutions and insights:
- Smiling can indeed impact the mood: research suggests smiling releases endorphins, which can improve mood. However, if underlying issues like self-love are lacking, smiling alone might not be enough. Couples could explore self-care, self-compassion, and therapy to address deeper concerns.
- Smiling can help diffuse tension and create a more positive atmosphere. Couples could try incorporating smiling and laughter into their interactions. Addressing underlying issues through communication, empathy, and conflict resolution strategies would also be beneficial.
- No, smiling is not a solution for domestic violence. If your sister is experiencing abuse, prioritis+awwe her safety. Encourage her to seek help from trusted resources like:
- National Domestic Violence Hotline
- Law enforcement
- Coaches/therapists
- This is complex as money can’t buy love, financial stability can reduce stress. Love and relationships involve emotional connection, trust, and mutual support. Prioritising communication, empathy, and understanding can help couples navigate financial challenges together.
To Be Continued!