If you can’t handle pressure, don’t get married – Actor Benson Okonkwo advises colleagues
By Rita Chioma
Nollywood actor and producer, Benson Okonkwo has taken out time to give advice to his colleagues whose marriages are no longer standing the test of time.
According to the actor on his Instagram page: “The rate at which marriages collapse now is assuming a social status symbol in our society. In no-time, people will be throwing divorce parties and invite friends and well-wishers to celebrate their divorce anniversaries.
They will choose aso-ebi, hire a hall and popular musicians & what have you. Even a question like “So when are you getting divorced?” will become common.”
He continued by asking that those that can’t handle pressure in marriages should rather remain single.
“If you know u can’t handle the weight & pressures of marriage, please remain single. If you don’t know what marriage is all about, please remain single until you do. If you are getting married because of the things you desire or hope to gain from the other person please remain single.
If you know you can’t be faithful, remain single. If you can’t endure insults from one another, please remain single. If you can’t forgive one another’s wrongs, please remain single.
If you can’t place your spouse above every other human being, please remain single! Don’t get married out of desperation. “All my friends are getting married” is the most foolish reason to get married!
If you desire a successful home, but your choice of friends are forces not to reckon with, think again. Be very mindful of where you go for advice, Many would give, but not many mean well!
Guys, if you know you can’t put your wife ahead of your ego, please remain single till you’re mature. Your wife is your priority and EVERYTHING else including you, comes last. You are the teacher, the guide, the bodyguard, the role model – you are not a deity or God. So do not expect to be worshiped.
You need respect, earn it by being responsible!
Ladies, if you know you can’t be submissive please don’t go into marriage so you’re not turned into a punch bag! If you know you can’t stand being corrected, pls remain single.
Mr/Mrs I know it all!!! Ladies check your domestic scorecard – if your score is 0, please stay in your parents’ house! People, please make your marriages work. Read carefully and share it with others. It doesn’t matter if you are Married or Not, Marry for love….”