A man in love would go out of his way to please his woman. He would want to get an engagement ring to let the world know she is his and has been taken.

The selection of the engagement ring should come as a surprise. Here is how he can do it codedly without revealing the engagement proposal surprise:

Pay attention

Paying attention to her jewelery likes and dislikes. What metal colour does she wear now? Most women have a definite preference. If she loves white gold or platinum, ignore others and go for them.

Examine her hands

An elongated diamond, such as a marquise or oval, can make short fingers look sleeker — but be careful not to overdo the look or it could have the opposite effect. Wide bands usually make fingers appear even shorter than they are, so think proportional. Women with long fingers can easily wear bold ring styles. A setting that’s extremely delicate could get lost on large hands, over-emphasize their size and make the ring look smaller.

Choose the right shape and setting

Round diamonds are the number one shape chosen by brides, but maybe not your bride. She might prefer an elongated marquise, oval, or pear-shaped stone, or a square or emerald cut diamond. Fancier shapes, such as hearts, are another option. Her current jewelery can give you clues about her preferences.

Consider her lifestyle

How will the ring fit in with her lifestyle? Does she work in a profession where fussy jewellery would look out of place? Even if she doesn’t, remember that a pointed gem with high prongs could snag clothing (and people) and is harder to keep clean. Save that type of ring for gifts that will be worn on special occasions, not every day.

What is her ring size?

Does she have rings that she wears on her engagement finger? Maybe a friend or family member could get hold of one of them long enough for you to have it sized. Of course, you’ll have to swear the messenger to secrecy.

Consider buying a loose diamond

Now that you have a better feel for the style of ring she might prefer, it’s time to consider the diamonds that will go into it. Start with the Four Cs: cut, clarity, carat and colour.  If you think you know which shape she loves, buy a loose diamond to show her when you ask the big question. The two of you can shop together later for the perfect engagement ring setting.

Consider your budget

Your engagement ring budget is a top consideration. Don’t stress if your budget is tight because you can buy an affordable engagement ring. There are lots of excellent options, from solitaires to rings with multiple diamonds or other gems. Stick to your budget.