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6 Things you should never say to a grieving person

May 28,2019
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Life sometimes happen and there might be loss. While it might be uncomfortable for the grieving person, there are certain words that must not be used to pay condolence.

These include:
1. What can I do?
Even though it sounds harmless, it creates additional work for the person who is grieving—it means they now have to think about what they need and use even more mental energy to decide what they should assign out to you. Just do what needs to done using your initiative.
2. How did he/she die?

Stay out of it. They will share the details if they feel comfortable doing so. If you’re really that curious, ask someone else who might know.

3. It gets better… or not

Every grieving person has their own timeline, but it may not help to hear unsolicited advice about it (even if it comes from a well-meaning person).  Emphasize you will be there down the road, no matter what.

4. At least...

Anything that begins with “At least…” like, “At least they didn’t suffer,” or, “At least it was a quick death, or, “At least they didn’t have children,” isn’t helpful to a grieving person. No qualifying statement can take away the pain of losing someone you love. Instead say something like, “I’ve been thinking of you,” or, “I’m so sorry.”

5. They are in a better place

Most likely, the person who’s grieving wants that person with them, not in the “better place.”Instead listen deeply.

6. Saying nothing at all

It’s understandable to be tongue-tied and at a loss, then end up not doing anything at all out of fear of hurting the grieving person. But even the smallest and most sincere gestures are appreciated. You can also show silent support.

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