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Lifestyle : Guide your identity jealousy

January 30,2020
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Your identity is a complete representation of you even while you are absent physically, endeavor to guide your identity jealousy.

Guide your identity jealousy

My girlfriend back in the village was in the choir, we did virtually everything together but not choir.

Constantly she tells me awesome things about being a chorister and told me about an upcoming event they are practicing for.

She added that I get to travel with them if I sing very well.

As someone who loves to travel, that ENTICED me and I followed her to practice the next day.

I was asked the part I love singing, well I didn’t know so they made me sing one song and put me in a particular part they ASSUMMED was BEST for me. (not sure what they called it).

While the practice was ongoing I constantly DRIFTED between the parts.

If bass sound better I SWITCH , if it’s trebor I will switched as well.

This goes for all the other parts, the one I didn’t try was the first part (this one seems to me like I was choking)

I constantly go off key and the instructor keeps changing my part.

At a point he got tired and me frustrated.

Gerard Manley Hopkins said

” Your personal boundaries protect the inner core of your identity and your right to choices ”

I was asked what part I wanted or was good at but because I had no passion for singing, I couldn’t tell and they fixed me up by a simple test .

I joined not because I wanted to be a chorister but because I wanted to be with my girlfriend and also travel.

I knew choir wasn’t for me but I was #enticed to join, if you need an enticement to do any thing then it’s obviously not for you.

Each individual has an identity but most times we tend to #drift and #switch because of a little offer, advantage, pressure and so many other reasons.

It seems right doesn’t make it right..

One most valuable possession we posses as humans is OUR IDENTITY.

If we can’t protect it then we will constantly drift through life.

Tuface said in a music he got a featured (originality remix). “No be every door way open you go enter”

Not everything is meant for you. Let your personal boundaries be your guide in decisions and choices, let it help you protect your identity.

One thing I have come to realize is that being another person or doing things outside your person is very exhausting and frustrating.

The best you can be is YOU and your originality is your selling point.

Let nothing make you drift away so you won’t have to constantly switch because you are floating.

I understand the craving to be appreciated but don’t let it be detrimental to your identity.

The things you should constantly protect with jealousy and all you’ve got is your mind and your identity.

Even in your business and every of life pursuit, guide your identity jealously.

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