By Adesuwa Ewoigbokhan

From time to time, sexual relationship can hit a lull in the bedroom. Housewives need to reignite passion if their sex life has been anything but sizzling.

 

They have to do this even when they are not feeling the need to or not in the mood especially, if the men are game.

True, this is the time to heat things up with a little creativity, and one of the funniest ways to do this, is to give an element of surprise to your mate with something he just never saw coming but has always wanted.

Ladies should learn to initiate sex because with some couples, it’s always the man’s job to get things started. If you belong to this group, then it is time to switch the tables. You can make this move when you’re both alone and having some quiet time.

It is really cool to go bottomless at home if you are alone, or the children have gone to bed, or if they have gone away for the weekend.

Actually, some guys yearn to see their women go topless. It can be a turn on for majority of them coupled with the fact that he knows exactly what is coming next. So ladies, get sexy and enjoy yourselves.

Try giving a good reason to get up before his normal time in the morning by waking him with your mouth-a blow job first thing in the day. A lot of guys if not all of them, would never turn down this morning act.

If you’ve never startled your spouse with this treat before, you’ve probably never seen the happiest man alive on planet earth.

But note that oral sex does not have to be prelude to intercourse. Do not be lazy about it, as he can just decide to return the favour.

Slowly wake him up in the middle of the night and then, gradually and affectionately have sex.

However, if he is the type that value his sleep, then don’t do this for any reason. Instead, you can stimulate areas other than his manhood. There are lots of other nerve endings on the male body that needs your attention too. Your love making should be explorative, let your hands and mouth also stimulate his other erogenous zones such as the nipples, ears, throat and the inner thighs. Every touch is going to feel more arousing and pleasurable.

Introduce sex toys into the other room because toys are fun. They are there to enhance sex and not to replace anyone. Pick a simple toy like a cock ring to prolong his orgasm as well as making it explosive.

A bullet vibrator can help to stimulate those erogenous zones earlier discussed above. It is important for you to first get a gauge of his reaction and only use it with his consent.

It could be fun to wear costumes, dress up as a slutty maid, flight attendant, nurse, dancer, whatever you’ve noticed him looking at and lusting after.

Wear something outlandishly provocative to get his reaction and if he bursts out laughing, you laugh too. Just make it light, nothing too serious.

Show a preview of your body when you and your guy are just relaxing in bed watching TV.

Startle him by unexpectedly stripping while he watches. He will be so excited that before you say Jack, he will probably pounce on you before you get to finish undressing.

Round this up by gently blindfolding your lover to lie down and run an ice cube, don’t linger for too long so that you can let him apply the ice cube on you too which could lead to a whole new level of arousal for both parties.

With a bit of creativity, you can turn any boring day into a sexual adventure by inviting him for a weekend gate-away. Volunteer to drive, take a wrong turn or the longest route on a secluded road, pull over and seduce him in the car.

This may be risky because of the poor security in the country right now but if you are sure of your security, you can give it a shot.

If your man happens to be the type that likes to hear dirty talk but you’ve always been a little uncomfortable about it, this is the perfect time to let go of your inhibitions by coming out of your comfort zone.

Start by leaving him a note or text message about all the filthy things you want to do with him. Work your way up to sexy voicemails to his personal phone that no other person have access to apart from him and eventually, start talking or at least whispering dirty things to him in bed.

The end result of dirty talking is to stimulate the brain, the biggest organ that keeps things sexy during playtime.
Startle your better half with quickie, this can be fun, playful, and full of passion. Being a quick does not necessarily mean it cannot be amazing. You can still get into your favourite sex positions during quickie.

If your sex life has become a little dull lately, it’s time to try something new and make your love life sparkle again. Strike up a sexual conversation, attentively listen to your significant other about his sexual desires/ fantasies and patiently take turns to talk about yours.

Agree to try something new; new sexual position, role play, or something else you’ve never done before.

In a relationship, it is actually easy for partners to fall into sexual patterns. which can make copulation feel like the same all the time.

It does not have to be. Keep things exciting by taking things easy, it is that simple and all of these could be fun for you as well.
HAPPY BELATED FATHER’S DAY !