Vanguard Allure

Top Menu

  • Vanguard

Main Menu

  • Home
  • Allure Magazine
    • Features
    • Magazine
    • Profiles
  • Allure TV
  • Celebration
    • Fashion & Style
    • Weddings
    • Lifestyle
    • Events
  • Wellbeing
    • Allure Woman
    • Healthy Living
    • Beauty
  • Happiness
    • Food
    • Shopping
    • Travel
    • Relationships
    • Career
  • News
  • Vanguard

logo

Vanguard Allure

  • Home
  • Allure Magazine
    • Female Influencers Cashing Out

      March 19, 2023
      0
    • IWD: Young Women Driving Tech

      March 12, 2023
      0
    • Buogo Obi-Oloketuyi: The Chic Carpenter

      March 5, 2023
      0
    • BOLANLE AND BUNMI NINALOWO: To Love And To Hold

      February 14, 2023
      0
    • Vanguard Personality Of The Year Awards 2022

      January 29, 2023
      0
    • Ruky Ogbetuo: From Fashion Writing To Prolific Designer

      January 21, 2023
      0
    • Bisola Alabi: Tech Savvy

      January 15, 2023
      0
    • Wumi Jubril - Providing Ultimate Wellness Experience

      January 13, 2023
      0
    • Celebrities Share their New Year’s Resolutions with us

      January 2, 2023
      0
    • Features
    • Magazine
    • Profiles
  • Allure TV
  • Celebration
    • Fashion & Style
    • Weddings
    • Lifestyle
    • Events
  • Wellbeing
    • Allure Woman
    • Healthy Living
    • Beauty
  • Happiness
    • Food
    • Shopping
    • Travel
    • Relationships
    • Career
  • News
    • How my dollar cash was stolen at Delta hotel -BBNaija's Phyna

      How my dollar cash was stolen at Delta hotel -BBNaija's Phyna

      March 17, 2023
      0
    • Olu of Warri, wife, joins world leaders to celebrate Commonwealth Day in ...

      March 16, 2023
      0
    • Amandla Ebeye reveals why she is changing name

      March 14, 2023
      0
    • Mercy Johnson's husband dedicates his Certificate of Return to her

      March 13, 2023
      0
    • Singer Tiwa Savage hosted at Buckingham Palace

      March 9, 2023
      0
    • 'I became a millionaire in Lagos' - Edo State born Toyin Abraham

      March 7, 2023
      0
    • Actor, Deyemi Okanlawon bags Silverbird Trailblazer Award

      Actor, Deyemi Okanlawon bags Silverbird Trailblazer Award

      March 5, 2023
      0
    • Oby Ezekwesili speaks on certificate of return issued to Bola Tinubu by ...

      March 2, 2023
      0
    • 2023: Actress Beverly Naya reacts to Peter Obi winning Lagos state 

      February 27, 2023
      0
  • 3 Sign you are ready to Hire an Interior Designer

  • Mothers Day Treat for mama

  • REVIVING YOUR SEX LIFE @ LACK OF CASH PACT

  • Female Influencers Cashing Out

  • Funke Akindele loses polling unit to APC

Relationships
Home›Happiness›Relationships›If you’re in an abusive relationship, talk to your family, authorities – Pst David Adeoye

If you’re in an abusive relationship, talk to your family, authorities – Pst David Adeoye

September 12,2020
Share:

Pastor David Adeoye, the founder of Royalty Christian Centre, has said anyone who is in a relationship where you are being beaten and abused, to speak up, to her family and the authorities about it.

He noted that it is better to be single and be alive than to die or become disabled in an abusive marriage.

Addressing the rising trend in cases of domestic violence in an Instagram post, Adeoye chided Christians who hide behind the bible verse: “what God has joined together, let no man put asunder.” Who told you it is God that joined all couples together? He asked.

The architect-turned pastor noted that it is foolish for any woman to think marriage comes first, and life comes after. Rather, one needs to be alive to remain married.

“If you are in an abusive relationship, you need to pause and fix it, if it’s possible, before thinking of going ahead with the relationship (marriage). If you continue and die or become disabled, it’s not satan- it’s your foolishness and stupidity that is responsible.” He said.

Here is his post:

“Domestic violence on the increase in our days.

If you are in a relationship where you are being beaten and abused, you better talk to your family and the authorities about it. YOU NEED TO BE ALIVE TO REMAIN MARRIED.

“Between Marriage and Life, which one comes first? Many women think Marriage comes first, while Life comes after- that is foolishness and stupidity mixed together.

“If you are in an abusive relationship, you need to Pause and fix it, if it’s possible, before thinking of going ahead with the relationship (marriage). If you continue and die or become disabled, it’s not satan- it’s your foolishness and stupidity that is responsible.

“I know a lot of ignorant Christians will come after me, but I am fine by that. Life is about the choice you make (Deut.30:19).

“Some ignorant Christian quote “what God has joined together, let no man put asunder.” Who told you it is God that joined all couples together?

It’s better to be single and be alive than to die or become disabled in an abusive marriage. I think we clergy (both Christians and Muslims) must teach our congregation this, over and over again. That means we all must not be spouse-abusers/beaters.

If you die or get disabled in a marriage and make Heaven, you’ll be shocked how God will react to your poor decisions.

“In fact, if you are in a relationship/marriage, where your spouse tells you “I will slap or beat you” whenever he/she is angry 😤, you must Pause and fix the brokenness in your relationship before thinking of whether to continue or discontinue.

“Parents who tell their children to go back to an abusive relationship are perpetrators of evil. They take this kind of stand because of “tradition” or the fear of what people will say. Many have lost their children to abusive marriages/relationships, because of unhealthy tolerance.

Our society should please stop over-rating Marriage. I know Marriage is a beautiful thing, but that’s when it is without abuse. It’s not just about being married, it’s about being happy.

TagsAbusiveauthorityDavid AdeoyeFamilyRelationship
Previous Article

Pastor Bimbo Odukoya’s children celebrate her 60th ...

Next Article

The only thing a man should beat ...

0
Shares
  • 0
  • +
  • 0
  • 0
  • 0
  • 0

Related articles More from author

  • Relationships

    Sexmatics: Comfortable sex positions during pregnancy

    August 26, 2018
    By RITA
  • Relationships

    Why I Covered My Wife’s Madness For 7 Years- Fani-Kayode

    October 5, 2020
    By Oluwamuyiwa Oyedele
  • EntertainmentNews

    Toke Makinwa and Tonto Dikeh Diss ex-husbands on social media

    May 17, 2019
    By allure1
  • Allure MagazineNews

    Funmi Iyanda writes on Beyonce’s Grammy Awards photo with her mum and daughter

    February 13, 2017
    By allure1
  • HappinessRelationships

    It doesn’t take a trophy or plaque to identify a true champion – Jennifer Lopez Fiance

    January 6, 2020
    By Nancy Akahalu
  • Relationships

    Actress, Toyin Abraham reveals her kind of man

    February 20, 2019
    By allure1
0

  • Entertainment

    Learn from me, Don’t get pregnant on a promise — Journalist Kemi Olunloyo says

  • Weddings

    Singer, Diamond Platnumz wants wedding day declared public holiday

  • News

    I’m back for purpose – Khafi Kareem

  • 5312
    Followers
  • 12744
    Likes

Timeline

  • March 19, 2023

    3 Sign you are ready to Hire an Interior Designer

  • March 19, 2023

    Mothers Day Treat for mama

  • March 19, 2023

    REVIVING YOUR SEX LIFE @ LACK OF CASH PACT

  • March 19, 2023

    Female Influencers Cashing Out

  • March 18, 2023

    Funke Akindele loses polling unit to APC

Categories

Subscribe to our Newsletter

Sign up to receive email updates and to hear what's going on with our magazine!

  • Recent

  • Popular

  • Comments

  • 3 Sign you are ready to Hire an Interior Designer

    By RITA
    March 19, 2023
  • Mothers Day Treat for mama

    By RITA
    March 19, 2023
  • How to attract the best spouse in 2020

    REVIVING YOUR SEX LIFE @ LACK OF CASH PACT

    By RITA
    March 19, 2023
  • Female Influencers Cashing Out

    By RITA
    March 19, 2023
  • Chioma Jesus, Sammie Okposo, Midnight Crew set for #THUGGLA2018

    By RITA
    April 24, 2018
  • American rapper, Kendrick Lamar wins Pulitzer prize for 2017 ‘Damn’ album

    By RITA
    April 17, 2018
  • Afrobeat singer, Seun Kuti drops new album titled ‘Black Times’ 

    By RITA
    April 23, 2018
  • Actor, Yul Edochie declares intention to run for presidency

    By RITA
    April 23, 2018

Entertainment

  • March 16, 2023

    Burnaboy to perform at Champions League final in Istanbul

  • March 16, 2023

    EbonyLife’s Mo Abudu, Idris Alba, partner on Africa-inspired movie

  • March 16, 2023

    Actress, Efe Irele declares support for colleague, Desmond Elliot

  • March 16, 2023

    Actress, Laide Bakare reacts to nude video allegations

  • March 14, 2023

    All you need to know about Sabrina as she drops ‘Johnny’

Follow us