Banky W and Adesua Etomi recount how they lost twins to miscarriage (Video)
Banky W and Adesua Etomi have spoken out about their miscarriage experiences. The couple made this known during an episode of The Waterbrook series.
“So we got pregnant and we got pregnant with twins. And we had gone for the scans, we had seen the heartbeats. At this point very few people knew what happened,” Adesua said.
“Every report that you have heard was a lie because nobody knew what happened. So during a routine checkup, we went back to the hospital to have a scan and I just saw the doctor’s face…you know when something is wrong, sometimes you can tell.”
“She was scanning and scanning and I was like what’s wrong and she said ‘oh nothing’ and I looked at the nurse’s face I’m and asked what’s wrong and she said ‘Adesua’ I’m looking for the heartbeats and I said ‘for the two of them?’.”
“So I went home and I remember Banky not being at that time and I remember collapsing on the floor wailing. Wailing is different from crying, it’s like a deep groin in your chest. I’m sharing because many women go through this and nobody talks about it because it is almost like a thing of shame for whatever reason and I don’t know why,” she added.
“So we said we were going to pray over the weekend and go back for the scan on Tuesday or Monday can’t remember now, hoping that God would do something.”
Banky W went on to describe how their twins’ heartbeats not only stopped, but also shrank, and how the babies died.
“Monday or Tuesday can and we went for the scan, not only did we not see heartbeats but the embryos were shrinking, they were decaying. When we found out we were losing them and we needed to do an evacuation, it was a very emotional time for her,” he said.
They discussed whether they wanted to adopt or use surrogacy to have a child.
Their pastor, according to Adesua, advised them to wait six months. Several dreams and memories of them bearing their baby followed.
Adesua revealed that she learned she was pregnant months after praying, and what she could say when she stared at the optimistic pregnancy stick was, “Olubankole God has done it.”
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