I regret getting married – Nigerian tourism blogger, Chiamaka Obuekwe writes as she reflects on life after her short-lived marriage
Nigerian tourism expert, Chiamaka Obuekwe, reflects on life after her short-lived marriage. The tour guide shared her reflection on Tuesday, December 28, which would have been the 4th anniversary of her traditional wedding.
It would be recalled that the founder of Social Prefect Tours, got married to her business partner, Aniefiok Ntia in January 2018 after dating for four years.
Three months later, she announced the end of their marriage, saying that ‘Aniefiok is now free to date all the pretty and slim girls.’
However, before the announcement, she had gone on a rant accusing Aniefiok of cheating on her with many girls.
Two months later, she took to social media to apologise to Aniefiok and blamed her actions on emotional stress.
Taking to Instastories she wrote;
“Three years after her short-lived marriage, the entrepreneur said that she is now in a much better place, emotionally and mentally, adding that marital failure is nothing to be ashamed of.
“So, I am happy we are both doing well. To be honest, we don’t talk but I feel it in my heart that he is doing well and I am glad.”
“Now having said that, I sometimes regret the fact that we got married (my life was going so well and I was happy) But I ‘m learning not to, it’s all part of my life experience and It was meant to happen.
“And no, we are not grtting back together. I do hope one day we can at least say hi to each other but I m not counting on it.
“Anyway, I am still a lover girl and I believe in love and I am happy for everyone who is genuinely in love and not faking it or managing.
“But you see marriage, I cant lie I am so scared. I just want an Oprah-Stedman relationship. And I am not sure about kids. (Never said this openly before) A am happy with my life and just want a partner to go on adventures together not siddon house cook soup from morning to night (kidding) but yeah I love being free.”
“At the end of the day, we want what we want and I am not scared of being judged. I am lucky to have experienced marriage to know it’s not really what I want. Some people say it’s because mine wasn’t good. Well you can say that but then again, is everyone really meant to get married?”
“Some of us just want love and partnership without certificates and all that plus I don’t think I can go through a wedding again.”
“I just hope that people are able to share more freely their truth and say what they really want. But yeah I know that’s not going to happen anytime soon. I hope you do what makes you happy.”