Dabota Lawson reflects on failed marriage, Toke Makinwa urges her to move on
Ex-beauty queen and entrepreneur, Dabota Lawson has said she regrets getting married in 2014.
She added that she wishes she made better decisions and was careful before getting involved with certain things and certain people.
In a post on Instagram, the mother of one stated that The only thing she did right that keeps her going was making the decisions to go through with her pregnancy and have her child. “My daughter is the only thing I’ve done right in the world over 25 years of my life.” She said.
“This weekend I spent a lot of time thinking and talking about past events in my life. My friends kept saying Dabota everything happens for a reason and you are who you are today because of all that has happened. But I said to them and myself NO!! I’m not soooo thankful, I wish I made better decisions and was careful before getting involved with certain things and certain people. I wish I could see the future of how some of my poor decisions will stay hunting me because they actually do. Every time I win or do better it’s because I chose to and I took the right turn, not always because I’ve learned a lesson. The only thing I know is my mind and heart is just stronger, too strong for my own good, I’m almost not in touch with reality and strictly focused on pursuing goals and making sure everyone and everything around me is fine.
“I miss being carefree and the softness and innocence I used to have. I hate the fact that I have a major trust issue and assume everyone has an ulterior motive around me. I mostly regret ever getting married in 2014 ( please keep all that lessons and whatever you think I got from it talk) I hate the fact that I did! PERIOD!
“The only thing I did right that keeps me going was making the decisions to go through with my pregnancy and have my child. My daughter is the only thing I’ve done right in the world over 25 years of my life. That’s how I feel.
“Be careful the decisions you make in life. This is a very stern warning, everything you do has a consequence that only you will experience in a way only you can understand.
Meanwhile, her friend, media personality, Toke Makinwa, has advised her to move on from the guilt and regret, stating that matters of love and relationships are quite dicey.
In her post, she explained that no one is flawless and feelings of regret can be quite exhausting, adding that when a man and woman walk down the aisle, they usually hope that it lasts forever, but that is not always the case
She wrote: “Hey babycakes, I know you think you’ve got it all figured out but who are we without our flaws? Who are we without our mistakes? We will still make some more. Regret is so exhausting, forgive yourself. We don’t forgive ourselves enough. Oprah said, “forgiveness is letting go of the hope that the past could have been any different”. So, in essence, let go of the hope that you could have made better choices, let go of the guilt, let go of it all and celebrate how much growth has happened. You’ll still make more mistakes, we all will. Let’s just pray for grace to catch us big hug #Byeeeee.”