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Great Sex @ Motherhood

March 31,2019
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Motherhood, naturally, brings a lot of joy. However, intercourse is not usually one of them. Having children with your spouse can be the best bonding connection, while on the other hand, it can also give room for resentment, romantic disconnection and unsatisfying love- making.

On a second thought, it is sex that made you a mother and with the arrival of children, sex becomes a sweet distant memory which ought not to be. Mothering could really be good for your sex life.
All is not lost to motherhood.

You can still improve your sex life but you have to create the time, as great sex does not happen on its own. Indulging in a truly, fulfilling sex after giving birth requires communication, commitment, confidence and education.

You need to shift focus from seeing sex as a chore to something exciting and pleasurable that you take delight in doing with your spouse.

Time is needed to achieve great love making, and it is understandable that you have quite enough going on in your life. But, you are just as important as everyone else, and you do need to make having pleasure a priority.

This can be achieved by putting the children to bed thirty minutes before their normal bed time or swap baby sitting with your sister for a pre planned night out with your man. You need to focus on yourself as a woman, mother and a lover.

You need to sleep well to feel refreshed and warm enough to rekindle your sex life. A 2015 study found that with just one more hour sleep at night, women were 14 percent more likely to engage in a sexual activity the next day.

Get involved by doing whatever it will take to sleep more, such as taking at least 20minutes nap, or promise yourself early bed time once a week, and notice the difference it will make.

Try and have a support system between taking care of the kids, doing laundry, washing of dishes, or doing any other households chore as this can put a strain on your relationship.

This might have a negative impact on your marriage as they breed grounds for resentment which could be the opposite of attraction. Seek your partner help. Research has shown that sharing household responsibilities increases the frequency of sex a couple has or better still, ask your mum or a trusted close friend for assistance.

You will need the right attitude if you want a pleasurable, exciting, healthy sex life. Embrace intercourse positively by making it a priority. You can give up an evening out with the ladies to have a romantic night date with your spouse.

Also, you need to schedule and put sex on your calendar. Planning sexual intimacy does not take the fun out of it instead, it helps to build the rhythm needed for a spontaneous real ACT to occur.

You also need to be flexible especially with motherhood. For instance, if any of the children happen to fall sick, you will need to push special night till the next available day. Just settle for quickie, go with the flow, you might be in for a surprise at the kind of fun you may have.

But if you throw in the towel after the first roadblock, you will be telling yourself and your guy that lovemaking is not worth working on, and this could only lead to more martial stress.

Sex toys are not strictly for solo usage. They can spice up the fun and excitement when used within the intimacy of the bedroom with your partner.

A sex toy, be it a vibrator or silk blindfold, can bring newness to the other room, as it can give you that much needed stimulation that will ensure you get your happy ending.

Motherhood can come with a lot of drama that may lead to frustration in your love life. If it goes unaddressed, it could drive a wedge in your marriage. Do not allow it to get to this stage.

So approach parenting stress with a sense of humor, embrace the crazy joy of being a mother, and use it as a connection point: something that holds you together and does not set you apart.
Give copulation a chance.

It pays to be open and be interested in it. ‘’Sex doesn’t need to be tiring- it can actually be rejuvenating,’’ says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., the author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. ‘’

There are so many health and relationship benefits to sex, that probably the best way to fight fatigue or boredom is through having sex.’’ It is quite like work-out at the gym or your spouse college reunion, which in theory you might not be keen about, but once you decide to get in to the mood, you will discover how much fun you can have. Your body will also release oxytocin, the hormone that makes you feel connected.

Mothers, it is true you are always tired after the day’s chores but you should not allow sex to always be the last thing on your mind. With a bit of effort and dedication in your sexual life, it will definitely pay back in tenfold. Your relationship gets improved with great and better sex,and your man transforms once more into your lover.

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY.

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