DONT GET BLURRED AWAY

If you have ever paid someone in the same coin or made an adjustment in your way of life just to get back at someone or prevent a supposed bad omen from happening again, kindly read till the end.

One thing common to people who have been hurt, heartbroken or betrayed is that they try to be extremely careful.

This carefullness prevent most, if not all from complete healing.

Most becomes a shadow of themselves that with just a glance you will be convinced that they are so different.

Change they say is a constant thing, it’s nothing to worry about when it’s a positive one.

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Janet : I’m not the same Janet you knew so many years ago.

Jeffery :I doubt that, the Janet who stole my heart is locked in there. Whenever I see you, I will unlock her from the prison she’s locked in.

Janet: I wonder what magic you will perform to make that happen. I’m grown now, experienced life both the good and bad and I have gotten stronger.

Jeffery: we have all experienced life, but hope you know that what happens to us should not determine who we become. It should only guide us to making more informed decisions.

Janet : Exactly what am saying, what ever life throws at us teaches us how best to adjust in other not to be hurt by anyone.

Jeffrey : It’s OK to not want to be hurt by anyone again, but it’s terrible to change your good personality because you are on guard. You may miss the right one for you and end up making enemies for yourself.

Janet : You’ve never been in my shoes so I don’t expect you to understand how it hurts or feels. Thanks for your time, I will keep all you’ve said in mind .

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They may never have been in your shoes but some persons are well read and exposed to the happenings in life.

Most persons tend to become different after an ugly experience, all because they wouldn’t want a repeat of that incidence .

They are either stiff, bittered, wicked, inhumane or repel anything that looks like the ugly incidence. This it the case of nice people who got hurt by one thing or the other.

The truth is this, whatever happened wasn’t your fault, it has nothing to do with you. So stop beating yourself up.

When people serve you a different plate of what you’ve been giving them, don’t be dismayed and giving them the pleasure of hurting you over and over again.

Forgive them, learn the lessons inherent, let go and move on.

Don’t try to avoid a repeat of what happen rather check to be certain you are in the right direction, place and with people whose attitude, thought and mindset are aligned with yours.

Strike to make YOU better and like its said that birds of same feathers flock together.

You will certainly attract the right clique who wants nothing but to make you happy.

There will be people who seem to derive joy in pulling or bringing you down.when they come at you, just do this

¤¤Make them know you are aware of what they are up to.

¤¤No matter who they are in your life, kindly dissociate  from such persons as with time they will bring you to the ground. If you can’t do that boldly as you wouldn’t want them to think you are feeling big.

Be present and unavailable, when this happens for a while, they can’t help it but help themselves to the exit.

No one is allowed the closure of tampering with your personality, it’s unique to you alone.

Cultivate it.

Feed it.

Water it.

It’s all there is about YOU. If they are not with you then they are against you.

Always guide your person from such predators, they come only to inflict pain and drain you from becoming better.

Escape from there grip and enjoy a life of fulfillment.

PS: Don’t be tempted to act like them in other to pay them back, you will be doing us all a great harm.

Don’t deny us the opportunity of meeting the pleasant you because of an ugly past or pain.

They say diamond don’t shine bright, just glow if you must. The world awaits you.