SEXMATICS: FOREPLAY A NECESSARY REQUIREMENT DURING SEX
By Adesuwa Ewoigbokhan
Foreplay is a flow of emotional and physical intimacy between couples, to create sexual arousal and desire before love making.
This can be pretty hot if done right. It is an important part of sex and naturally, gives ladies time to warm up to get in the mood. Also, it allows them to achieve orgasm more frequently.
As you know, it is very easy for a guy to think about making love and having an erection but for most ladies, intercourse is not enough. Foreplay serves a physical and emotional purpose: thereby, preparing both mind and body for copulation. Most female folks have to be hugged, kissed and caressed to get the vagina wet which is very vital for comfortable and pleasurable sex.
You must never skip foreplay because there might be that possibility, that she does not enjoy love- making as much as you do. So, if you think she is, she is most likely faking it. A woman’s body is a lot more complicated than a man’s body. She is not typically ready to get busy on command, pair that with the fact that women are more stimulated by touch than sight.
Do not be in a hurry to undress if you are going for foreplay as women believe, that, it is more seductive and arousing if you take your time to remove the layers of your clothing. Though it might be difficult to control yourself once your eyes are all over her body, but she will appreciate the wait that comes along with peeling away of clothes and the attention you give her body in the process.
Indulging in foreplay before making love is all about getting her warmed up and ready for the real act. So, going right into clitoral stimulation, or G-spot stimulation will not work especially when she is not aroused. The clitoris and G- spot are important spots to caress on a woman’s body; never allow foreplay to start from here. Let it be your dessert after the main dish.
Sexual intimacy does not have to occur only in the bedroom neither should foreplay. You can get pleasurable excitement along with trying out sensual play in other rooms in the house. Even if you later end up in the bedroom, just playing around in other situations can get her heated up and excited.
Don’t rush things in the bedroom, take it slow and try building anticipation which can work wonders for your foreplay efforts. Feel free to ask her about how she wants to be touched. Your goal is to arouse her as a lot of women appreciate straightforward questions -it shows her that you aim to please her the way she likes to be pleased, and that on its own, can put her in the mood. If she is the type that is shy in the bedroom, she can show you by taking your hands to those places that she wants to be touched, without having to answer you directly. This can be incredibly hot for both of you, a win-win either way.
Sensual foreplay is all about passionate touch that may not involve the genitalia, and kissing is one of the oldest forms of sensual foreplay for women. How you kiss speaks volumes to a woman. Kiss her gently but firmly. Do not keep your lips stuck on her the entire time, let your kisses stray to her neck, ears and cheeks. Kiss her right by kissing her all over.
Love making and sexual touching are great. So, make use of your fingers to give her sensual massages which is a new world of pleasure for her. It is also going to make her feel like she is nurtured, adored, loved. Getting her relaxed, helps lower her inhibitions thereafter.
Couples enjoy knowing that their partner fantasizes about them doing certain things. Chat up your spouse about sexual fantasies even if she is yet to share her own. She might take the initiative to fulfill all your fantasies; better still, she may open to you some of her own fantasies. This intimate exchange of fantastic ideas, can heat emotions faster than one can imagine on both ends.
Let her have more of what she desires and if you’ve been with your babe for a while, you probably have a good idea of what she likes in the foreplay department. There is nothing wrong with doing what works for both of you even if it seems like a routine. Happily oblige her if she loves and responds well to a sensual massage, oral sex or likes a certain sex toy. There is nothing wrong with exploring and experimenting new things but never let go of the trusted foreplay that has always worked. Never put it on the back burner just because you want to try new stuffs.
Get to play around with a little BDSM once in a while during foreplay as kinky BDSM does not always mean leather outfits, handcuffs and whips. You will be surprised at just how much arousal can come along with a little –spanking, light biting, to mention a few. Give it a try and let your spouse know that she can come up with a safe word you both can use if either of you feel uncomfortable.
Foreplay for ladies is one way of getting her turned-on compared to guys. Oftentimes, women are never ready for intercourse, her physical arousal is a lot more complicated than you think. Here is a bonus, good foreplay time helps to get her closer to the goal of achieving climax, which means you will be less likely to finish first before she is actually done once sex is initiated.
Every woman is different in her unique way. In as much as this may make your job harder as a partner that aims to please his woman, with a bit of patience and effort, this will pay off and you will be glad that you gave it a shot.