The act of making love has become one of the most discussed subjects of modern times with the old generations pretending it did not exist, while the new generations pretend that nothing else exists.

This is one reason why it’s critical for us to remember and cherish God’s purposes for sex, especially in a world where unhealthy sex is depicted everywhere, and the idea of healthy, even, holy sex gets lost in the process.

Sexual act is a vital part of God’s plan for marriage- He wants you to enjoy and celebrate your spouse sexually, be more than roommates, more than teammates, and be lovers caring for each other’s bodies as God holds the patent.

The generally heed view is that sex is for procreation; but there’s a lot more to it than that. Sexual intimacy enriches marital union and God knowing that it was not good for man to be alone thus created woman to compliment him as a partner. He also made the process of intimacy to be fun. (Proverbs 5:18-29) Proof of God’s Interest in intimacy is seen in Song of Solomon: a book of the Bible dedicated completely to physical intimacy and pleasure between husband and wife. This shows that sexuality was not restricted to just procreation but for our pleasure and enjoyment as lovers.

God has the best plan for sexuality and the secular world talks about sex all the time. So if the church refuses to talk about it, people will settle for distortions the world is selling. So intercourse is not something dirty or worldly, it’s worship, a form of devotion and it is sacred. It is a coming together of a couple celebrating God’s gift of one another.

Sex is not all about two bodies being joined together, it is the merging of two souls on a profound spiritual and emotional level. Based on this, God created a secure context in which to experience this act – marriage.

Love making between couples is never a cause of shame, it should be honoured, cherished and enjoyed as the gift God gave us. (Proverbs 5:19). God’s stance on sex in marriage is very glaring – he wants his children to enjoy this part of their lives (songs of Solomon 7:11-12). So joyously do it, and enjoy the process.

Looking at the animal kingdom, you will notice that most of them only engage in sex when the female is fertile but unlike animals, married couples were created to enjoy sexual intimacy at any given time as they deem fit. This helps to nurture peace and security in marriages. The act of mating is a way of romancing one another, playing together or sharing a quiet moment. Engaging in it is far beyond physical connection, it’s the mingling of the spirits as it creates and maintains a bond for husbands and wives that’s soul-deep.

When people think of God and sex, “holy” is the furthest word from their minds. The church has not really helped much with their misconceptions and irrational taboos around sexuality, including sex within marriage.

It is true that God designed us as sexual beings. Sex was his idea.  Design and planned for us so that if done right, under blessing, results in children though not ultimately restricted to that, it’s for the glory of God and the comfort of mankind.