By Adesuwa Ewoigbokhan

These days, due to couples’ busy schedules, a handful of them struggle with sexual intimacy in the bedroom and the worst part is, they pretend as if it’s normal, not wanting to have a conversation about it.

Their sexual life almost always goes down the drain when these issues arise in different shapes and sizes: differing expectations, fears, lack of intimacy outside the bedroom, past sexual abuse, boredom, tension over frequency, loss of libido, unresolved hurts, constant rejection, unmet needs, lack of variety, and long gaps, among others.

Sex is actually a skill, putting intentional effort into it, you are almost guaranteed to experience a turnaround improvement in your sex life.

Research has shown that the best sex is marital sex: the most frequent and most satisfying, give it a boost to enable you to have better sex in the New Year.
A balanced wedlock is a balanced union, that entails a healthy vibrant and mutually fulfilling sexual life.
As the “New year, new me” is running high, it serves as a perfect time to boost your sexual intimacy in the New year. Here are some tips to guide you.

*A QUIZ

Take online quizzes like the erotic blueprint quiz: this will help to know when to be turned on or the sex personality test, this reveals your sexual communication style and how you can improve it. The bottom line is that, it helps you get to know yourself better, or help you and your spouse get to know yourselves better sexually.

*TAKE INITIATIVE

Don’t be shy in bringing up sex subject with your lovebird. Use the opportunity to address some intimacy concerns you have with your relationship that will be mutually satisfying over the next year when addressed.

*ASSESS CONNECTION

Have a talk about the nature of your relationship outside the bedroom: is there enough ‘us’ time? Where is your friendship? Are you still talking and playing? The greater your relationship with your partner outside the bedroom, the greater the chance you will have sexual connection in bed.

*INCREASE AFFECTION

Check how often you hug each other. Does hugging only imply sex? Is kissing part of your daily interaction and part of your foreplay?
Warmth, kindness and affection all show that the interest is more than just for sexual pleasure. As sexual intimacy is simply a fuller way to express your affection.

*TARGET MUTUALITY

Sexual intimacy needs to be satisfying to couples especially as you need to understand, respect and meet the needs of your spouse.

One-sided sexuality: where it’s good for one but unsatisfying for the other is not allowed or acceptable. Be selfless in sex, be a giver not just a taker.

  To Be Continued!