SMILING: MOOD BOOSTER FOR COUPLES
….Contd from last week:
Smiling at your lover is a deliberate act because it requires you to break from whatever youre doing and focus on your partner (it says 1 see you over, all the things Im doing). Its an invitation to draw close and connect in spite of whatever circumstances they may be going through.
Couples smile less as they get older in marriage; more so with women who feel men tend to connect smiling to sex.
The simple truth is that, a number of men cant help but connect smile to sex
So, if smiling communicates intercourse, some ladlies then smile less because they want to stylishly turn their husbands off. Not smiling then makes them look less happy; a situation that needs to be worked on in marriage.
Husbands need to learn that not every smile is an invitation for intercourse, while wives need to accept that their spouse being attracted to their smile is just a compliment. Generally, both husband and wife should smile at each other more often. Whatever the case, ladies need to smile more, it is a powerful act in the concept of marriage and its one of the easiest and quickest ways to get connected to your spouse. Sometimes, the most common response to smile is a smile. Do this when it comes to smiling- You may need some practice as the facial muscles has been trained to frown or look expressionless. Retrain those muscles by simply standing in front of a mirror and try smiling at yourself. Get used to how it feels (show some teeth, curl your lips and cheeks upward) and lastly, connect your face to your emotions. Your face will tell you if youre happy.
Smiling can be something to pass on, much like yawning is contagious. When you smile at a person, he/she will reciprocate and if you smile more, your spouse will smile more, and then, you will smile back and on it goes.This act may look like a silly concept but it really works, and it can ignite a smile-fest in your marriage over time. The Bible (Proverbs 15:30) says that A cheerful look brings joy to the heart. Your face has the ability to shoot up hope and happiness into your spouses countenance without saying a word.
Sometimes, all that your spouse needs from you is a tender look, or a quick, playful grin. Couples should regularly smile at one another as there is power in this act; it communicates a safe connection between the two of them and shows playfulness in spite of whatever challenge any of you may be facing. As one author writes Each time you smile you throw a little feel-good party in your brain. Spouses who smile more may have longer and more successful marriages.
The larger the smile, the less likely divorce because couples that smile, tend to be more optimistic, joyful and emotionally stable, leading to a healthier union.
So, whether you want to lower your stress level, improve your marriage, or bring joy to someones day, smiling is an effective strategy for achieving a multitude of goals.
Better still, it is a free, easy, one-stop shop that is always with you, everywhere you go and it has a tone of benefits for your overall well being.
In a nutshell, if youre keen about building a healthy marriage; a very vital requirement is learning how to smile a lot.