By Patricia Uyeh,

Nollywood diva, Omotola Jalade-Ekeinde, who has been married for 21 years, in a recent interview, spoke at length on the  major issues facing marriages today, which is infidelity.

According to her, a cheating spouse considered a first time offender should be forgiven especially if they are remorseful and show signs of change. But if a spouse continuously cheats, a lot of things have to be considered. However, it depends on the people involved in such relationships.

She said:

“When you say a cheating spouse, I guess that’s someone who’s a repeat offender. If someone cheats once, should they forgive that kind of person, I would say, definitely yes, if they are remorseful and if they show signs of change.

“Should someone forgive a repeatedly cheating spouse? Why are they cheating? I think the problem with us these days is we are very impatient. Yes, the sin is there and the sin is very bad but then, sometimes, you need to sit back and assess the situation: who is this person really: is that the only problem?Is this person perfect person and is just a cheat? You have to weigh your options.

“For me, as a person, is this something I want to deal with? Does it matter to me or am I angry because of what people will say?

“I have met a lady who says to me, “I don’t care what he does.” And someone else said, “You should care, he’ll give you a disease.”

“But do you know if she sleeps with her husband with protection? And she does not care about the emotional part. Maybe she’s just as cold as he is.

“And maybe, she is also cheating and feels like everybody can do whatever they like, as long as we’re together, we’ll respect each other.

“You don’t know peoples’ relationships so you can’t judge their relationship, only they can decide. If it is just about cheating and nothing else, one may be able to live with it but when the person is hopeless, that’s another matter”

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