It is natural for spouses to undergo phases of waxing and waning sexual frequency. This can be as a result of illness, injury, stress, hectic schedules, and marital conflicts to mention just a few.

A considerable gap can occur in a couple’s sex life, such that they go without love making/intimacy for months or even years.

Reduced sexual activity can affect sex drive especially, after a period of inactivity, so reconnecting sexually can be quite awkward.

Basically, there are ways to restore sexual energy in a matrimony that is burnt out.

It is normal for a healthy sexual desire to ebb, and flow all the time in the affairs of the heart.

Life is hectic, jobs get in the way, and to a large extent, and the very thing that ought to be filling us up better than anything else, gets a back seat. Desiring to sexually reconnect with your spouse will make you happier, quarrels/arguments will subside faster, and you will feel more connected with your mate.

A healthy sex talk is one of the few conversations that you ought to indulge in with your spouse on a regular basis; if this is absent, your relationship can nosedive.

Read below tips to sexually reconnect with your spouse.

Be sure to connect with your own body: first, by having self love for your being, so as to fully enjoy the pleasure of love making. This you can achieve by indulging in exercises such as going for a walk, yoga, gym or whatever sport you feel is the most fun for you.

‘’The oxygenation and cellular restoration not only improves your sexual enjoyment and stamina, but it helps balance your immune system and gives your sex drive a short in the hand.’’

Get rid of stumbling obstacles, if there are issues that you or your spouse need to trash out such as, unresolved argument or some stressors that either you or your mate has been struggling with. You need to have an open and deep conversation, so that the sexual energy can start flowing once more.

Adopt connection exercises, these are super powerful for helping couples to slow down, drop into the moment and reconnect with your spouse in a way that we are not prone to on a constant basis.

Cuddle for about ten minutes, as re-integrating more touch into our lives is one of the best ways to spice sexual connection. Naturally, human beings crave for touch and are best appreciated when coming from a loved one.

Shut off your internet devices, if possible, set a timer and cuddle for a while. The happy chemicals that get released in your brain will help you sleep better.

Kissing is a deep intimate act, spend ten-fifteen minutes, don’t rush through it too quickly, slow down and fully enjoy it. Kissing is a form of conversation, along the line, some kind of touching, groping and grinding might occur, that will be cool but do allow the kissing to be the centre focus for a while.

You will be shocked how its advantages transfuse throughout all of your foreplay.

Regardless of what you end up doing in your sex play, remember to play, slow it down, take your time, enjoy yourself and wholly meet your mate’ satisfaction by taking turns in giving and receiving phases.

Spoiling sessions: this is a simple exercise as the name implies. Couples should take turns to give each other gifts, within uninterrupted block of time, your preference [ thirty minutes, an hour, a day ] this is just an exercise, where you simultaneously practice being selfish while also honestly, asking for what you want.

Your partner may want you to begin with a kiss, cuddling, massage, or you may want to indulge in certain positions for a while, maybe he/she wants slow, sensual intercourse while listening to their favorite music. Whatever you decide is up to the receiver, without doubt, within the confines that you are both comfortable with.

Continue with what has worked the best for you, communicates your desires to your spouse, and make a commitment to make this practice become a regular routine in your marriage. Make your connection non-negotiable as nothing matters more than the bond you feel with your partner.

Your joyousness, healthy body and job satisfaction is laced to how happy you feel at home. As a result, make it a priority, as your time and attention are the most valuable resources that you will ever have.

Give them freely to your spouse and you will end up with a flourishing relationship.
Get the help of a skilled sex therapist/coach. It’s often necessary to facilitate the process if situation gets complicated.