Marital life needs to be couples’ most cherished relationship, and should take priority over every other connections.

If this begin to change from your number one position, then it is time to stop and take another look at the situation, particularly if the quantity and quality of your online interaction are more enjoyable and fulfilling than your wedlock. This could be a sign that the relationship is slipping downhill.

Social media has affected marriages and relationships in a very negative manner. The problem is not what you do there, but how much time you spend. Research shows that increased usage of social media can lead to marital issues, infidelity, separation, and eventually, divorce.

A recent study published in Computers in Human Behaviour, compared state by state divorce rates to per capita Facebook accounts.

This study found a connection between social media usage and decrease in marriage quality, in all the models that were analysed.

It also discovered that a twenty percent annual increase in Facebook enrollment was linked with a 2.18 – 4.32 percentage rise in divorce rates, while the study’s model from the individual survey results, predicts that people who were not in to social media are eleven percent happier in their marital relationships than those that regularly used it.

The social media readily provide the much needed access for a jealous partner to seek out information about the activity of their spouse. Couples often feel uncomfortable after discovering stuff about their significant other’s Facebook account whether founded or unfounded, which often leads to increased monitoring, suspicions, jealousy and conflict in marriage.

Researchers have this to say that the more a person examines their mate’s online activity, the more tendency the person will show mistrust.

Sadly, one in ten couples reported hiding messages and posts from their partner. Another eight percent of them admit to having secret accounts, causing suspicions about a spouse’s social media interactions since one in three divorces escalates from online affairs.

A number of times, your Facebook friend dress to impress by posting their selfie with spouse with all smiles, ‘tag’ –Dinner Date Night Out.

The more you scroll your News feed, the more you will see many supposedly ideal marriages and there is that natural tendency for you to want to compare your own marriage to perceived perfection of someone else especially as the ups and down in your relationship may become more pronounced.

Avoid the urge to take what you see at face value as you know little or nothing about the wedlock that is being shown online. Rather, than allowing comparisons make you feel insecure, divert that so called energy into something more productive to strengthen your own matrimony.

Resist sharing too much personal details on the internet especially, intimate information about your relationship. It should never surface online as your fans are not keen about it.

Also, it could cause distrust between couples and it could backfire if you and your significant other, decides to go your separate ways. So always think twice before you press ‘’enter and share’’.

The social media platform will always post your single friends looking amazing and before you know it, the single life will start looking more exciting and attractive as you see them dancing the night away, going on adventurous holidays, cinema, musical concerts, eating out in good restaurants.

All these may look better than your own life, because a number of people’s posts are exhibited to portray their lives in the most positive light.

Married people are beginning to see the effect of social media on their marital lives, and the need to reduce the time spent on any Internet handlers, and to be more open or receptive in their online activities. Make sure what you say online is nothing you could not say with your spouse standing nearby or you might even consider letting your partner read it first – this is good accountability.

Instead of taking your marital problems on social media, have a direct conversation with your partner, say what needs to be said, and be sure to say it to the right person. If you believe the chat may hurt feelings or get you into trouble, come up with ways to soften the atmosphere when you decide to raise up the issue.

Get to use social media to build up your relation as it makes it easier for people to connect while apart, and keeps the relationship from drifting away.

Be sure to reinforce what you say online by what you do when you see one another in person.
It is quite easy when you are in the house to drift towards your own different individual social media corners, that you hardly notice you have not spoken a word all evening.

Put aside your personal devices and plan some face time, the real stuff not the Apple product stuff. ‘’ When you are together, come together ’’ in all, do remember these two driving principles of building and maintaining your marriage vows.

The value of your affairs depends on the quality of time each of you get to invest in it. If you refuse to be intentional about growing towards oneness, that means you will be gravitating towards isolation.

As more than one third of marriages now begin through dating sites and social media networks, these matrimonies are lasting longer than the ones that starts offline.

Refuse to be a social media casualty, get deliberate about strengthening your wedlock, and avoid situation that might potentially destroy it.