Having quantity time with your significant other, is an important part of keeping a relationship happy and connected.

Quality time is any time that you and your partner spend together that makes you feel closer, more connected, and more in love than you were prior to the moment.

Couple enjoying quality time

This could be a few minutes, or a few hours out of an entire day spent together at home. The amount of this quality time does not really matter: so long it’s what you do on a regular basis to keep the union going.

The success of your quality time with your spouse is not about how much time you spend together, it is what you do in it. This can be spent anywhere, doing anything that you and your mate will enjoy, as long as you are able to smile, laugh, and feel good around each other. Being able to connect positively can also be described as quality time.

It might be that time you sit to watch a movie if it is used as an opportunity to connect with your spouse, plus talk about what you are watching every now and then. While relating it to your life together, your goals and your evolving understanding of the world, turning it to fun-time by making jokes or having more serious conversation about what you just witnessed on the screen.

Apart from the typical activity of sitting on a cushion and watching television, quality time with your soul mate can be as simple as making an effort to remain involved in each other’s lives, which can include talking about one another’s wants, interest, dreams and ambitions. However, note that the answer to a successful relationship is not about being attentive all the time but, the secret is to focus on deepening the love, respect and attraction over time.

Some couples actually, believe that quality time is much more important than quantity time for building healthy homes, meaningful interactions and bonds and this is not always so.

Quantity time refers to the amount of time spent between spouses. This is the point where the myth of quality time is dispelled. As one does not get to create or demand the magical moments of life which normally happen when you least expect them. An adult cannot be forced to open up emotionally upon demand. You cannot expect somebody to fulfill your expectation of performing the role or function of producing a meaningful interaction within a limited time frame.

You need quantity time together with your partner to make a relationship successful. If you decide to give one another as much as undivided attention when you are together, then you will end up having the opportunity to truly create quantity and quality time at the same time.

Career and life demands, usually, place realistic limits on the amount of time couples get to spend together. With unexpected work obligations on the weekend, to sudden business travel demands, one spouse’s professional goals and ambitions can impose stress on marriage if the other mate expects a different level availability. Couples must learn to navigate time spent together, with the time that is typically devoted to unexpected official trips, family and friends.

Studies have shown that women who more quickly increase time spent with a romantic partner, more quickly decrease the amount of time they spend with their best friend [ Zimmer-Gembeck, 1999 ]. When friends complain of not seeing you regularly and your family wondered where you have been hiding, the tricky nature of finding a balance becomes really visible.

The aim is to find a meeting point in which couples are happy with the time they spend together, maintain their outside and family friendships, and at the same time, making progress towards their professional goals while giving their marital live a chance to flourish.

If it happened that you’re having difficulty enjoying the time you spend with your sweetheart; especially when it starts getting boring, and you are feeling that your love life has gone low, you can bet that spending considerable amount of time is in dire need while quality is needed even more.

So if you must make a choice between quantity and quality, choose quantity since you will be sharing your life with your soul mate and not playing to the gallery. Quality moments are always there to add sparks, and to remind ourselves and those we love of what they help us achieve just by being in our everyday lives.