3 Major signs you’re in abusive relationship despite the show of affections
Do you know that love can make you blind to some abuse in a relationship? If you don’t know here are the three major and obvious signs that you are in an abusive relationship because abuse can still manifest itself even in the most loving relationships.
- Dictating resources spending
Abusive partners feel entitled enough to tell you how to spend or save your money and other resources. They feel they have ownership of your finances because you are in a relationship together. Be cautious if you see any sign of this in your partner. The experts also cautioned against putting up with a partner who always uses money to exercise control in a relationship.
- Picking fights
According to Ms Bonnie Koehn, a psychologist based in the United States, abusers like to assess how much you will take. They will start out by testing you with small arguments to see if you’ll forgive them.
“Over time, these fights will get as big as you let them. They increase so gradually that you don’t realise you’re falling deeper into an abusive situation.
“The common element of these tests is that they usually make absolutely no sense. You will not be able to figure out what you’ve done wrong or why you’re apologising,” Koehn told the HuffPost.
- Superiority feeling
At first, superiority can look like confidence, but with an abuser, it can turn out to be egomania or abrasive arrogance. At its worst, it can be sociopathic narcissism.
Koehn said, “Healthy people have no need to belittle others. They feel that everyone is equal and there is room in the world for everyone to be great.
“Women are love optimists and can spend years hanging on promises. But sadly, it is just not statistically likely that an abuser will change. The world is full of healthy people and happy relationships.”
“Don’t be afraid to trust yourself and start again. It’s not easy to walk away from an abusive relationship. But I promise you, life is better on the other side,”