Confidently Sexy In The Bedroom
Feeling sexy sometimes has proven to be a very difficult task, like really hard. It is a lot easier for you to ooze confidence during office presentation; whereas, it could be a totally different ball game when it has to do with sex. ‘’It’s hard to be open with your sexuality-for anybody because you feel vulnerable to rejection” says sex expert, Jane Greer, Ph.D., author of What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship.
“The trick is to know your comfort level and then to push it just a little bit-that’s all you need.’’
Just a bit of confidence and alteration in the bedroom, can boost your sexual life a hundred times better. After all, the year is just starting and you have got to show a new side of yourself. Looking sexy is not as tough as you may think and it does not have to be stressful.
It is a must to shower and shave before having sex, this will make you feel youthful and also smell well. The opposite will make him think twice before jumping into bed with you. Brush your teeth two to three times daily, and try moisturizing your skin after bathing. Men get crazy in love with ladies who love this ‘secret kill’ as this will have firm urge, to seek out this one secret ingredient in their bedroom repertoire.
A number of women believe that their men get nuts over their bodies hence, they tend to look like supermodels. But the truth is that, so long you are in front of him naked and want to have sex with him, automatically you become the most beautiful woman on the planet. He will romantically play with you, you hair inclusive. So make sure your hair smells nice and always look pretty. No hair spray, keep it natural and flowing.
Go easy on makeup since you wouldn’t like mascara to run down your cheeks in the middle of a sweaty orgasm. You surely don’t want your lipstick smudged all over his shoulders as you are biting him in bliss. Leave out the makeup or use minimum needed to make your face look smooth.
Dim the lighting in your bedroom: this gives off a romantic feeling, making you look sexier. The lights put an aura into the bedroom as nobody want s to make love under flinty florescent lights. Instead,9 light a few candles and soften the lights. Based on recent survey, it was discovered that both men and women actually prefer dim lights for love making. This is quite obvious –it’s just enough light to see what you are indulging in, giving you both a shady flattering shadow.
Give him that sultry look. No time to be goofy, so give him that sleepy look. Lower your eye lids and look at him as if you are teasing him, flirt gently with your eyes. The eyes are responsible for conveying a large portion of non verbal communication: nothing beats the look at that moment when he enters you for the first time.
Go for flattering lingerie, accentuate your assets, lift the parts that sag to make it easy for him to remove; especially, as most women look very sexy in a corset. Give it a try. Alternatively, leave the lingerie aside and make use of the bed sheet to your advantage. Lie naked and cover yourself with the bed covers, cross your arms under your breasts to push them up exposing only the top of your cleavage. Bend your knee, leave one leg out showing off your foot, the hint of skin mixed with the knowledge of what happens under the sheets is going to punch him wild.
To be realistic, feeling sexy could be very intimidating. It’s like taking a jump from being the docile girl, to sex goddess overnight. A few tweaks can make you feel wilder and more self assured in bed. ‘’There is a misconception that taking charge has to be something big’’ says Greer. But in reality, tiny acts can give you a major confident boost. Make dirty talk dirtier. It is possible to make a no-brainer even sexier. Use your finger to trace a word on your partners back like ‘’kiss’’ or ‘’blow job’’ and have them guess, says Ava Cadell, Ph.D, author of Neuroloveology: The Power To Mindful Love And Sex. If they are right, perform the move. If they are wrong, well use your judgement.
Listen to music that makes you feel wild and sensual, says Kerner, like something that would make you lose inhibitions and dance crazy in a club. Not only will it drown out nerves (and awkward noises), it will also create a vibe.
Take charge of the reins. Experts say that taking the first step or initiating sex is one of the top most things guys crave in bed. Feel free to be a little bossy. Tell your man in your sensual tiny voice exactly what you will be doing to him, or what you expect him to be doing to you. When couples are specific about their wants, it makes the other person feel desirable.
Perform a choreographed strip tease. Tone it down a notch and pay attention on taking off each item of clothing in a slow and sensual way. Do not allow your spouse to touch you until every single item of clothing is on the floor, as this gradually builds up, will make you feel completely in charge and irresistible.
Pay him compliment, pull him closer, give him a kiss on the lips and tell him how hot he is looking. This is more than enough to set the ball rolling.
Indulge in food play, dark white or milk chocolates. Make your choice about the one you might want to use to seduce him with. If you are shy, get it to the bedroom and slowly up your game from whipping it off his body.
On a final note, the most important thing you can do for yourself in order to look sexy in bed is to feel sexy. One easy way of doing this, is to get yourself in the mood before time, even if you have to tease yourself then do it. Once aroused, you will definitely want to copulate. Be confident in your being and believe in your own sexiness.
No matter your body type/size or how many lovers you have had in the past, feeling sexy, loving yourself and being comfortable in your own skin, is the sexiest thing in the world. So, do that which it takes to be attractive in bed and have fun while at it.