Quiet sex is often a matter of courtesy. If you live with roommates, you are a guest in someone else’s home, or your kids are sleeping one room over, you may not want to subject others to the thumping of a headboard.

But that doesn’t mean you have to forgo sex altogether. In fact, regular sex helps you bond with your partner. Of course, that’s just one of the many benefits of sex.

Even when discreet sex is a must, it shouldn’t have to be a bummer. In fact, staying silent can be extremely sexy. The need to hold back can make it even more exciting.

Keep reading to find out when, where, and how to get it on without a sound.

1. Find a time when others are less likely to overhear

Your lovemaking is less likely to attract attention if everyone is asleep. While you may still want to keep the noise to a minimum, you might have a bit more leeway in the middle of the night or the wee hours of the morning.

2. Do it in the shower

Shower sex is less likely to be noisy in the first place, provided the shower you’re using is big enough for two. Plus, there’s added coverage in the sound of the water, which might also help you take your mind off the sound. Take care to avoid slips and falls, which could not only blow your cover, but also cause an injury.

3. Avoid the bed

Beds, while great for sleeping, can make all kinds of noises when you’re getting frisky. To avoid those telltale squeaky mattress springs, the floor is your best option. While it may not be the most comfortable, you can soften things up with a few blankets or pillows.

4. Change locations

If proximity to other bedrooms is your issue, why not skip the bedroom altogether? You can avoid the possibility of your kids, relatives, or other guests in your own house hearing you by scouting out a new location. An office, basement, or playroom pretty much any out-of-earshot room with a door you can close will do just fine.

However, this is not advised if you’re in someone else’s house.

5. Add other noise

Added noise can give you a bit more flexibility as to how loud you can be. Music is a great daytime option to avoid arousing suspicion. At night, a white noise machine, television, or ambient music are a little bit more discreet when it comes to sound-canceling options. Of course, you’ll still want to be mindful of your volume.