While many have bid farewell to a challenging and tumultuous 2020, lockdown seems to be looming in many parts of the country due to the coronavirus pandemic that is once again, rearing it’s ugly head.

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Not withstanding, it is very important to make sure our love lives do not go to rut by adopting some of the tips below to spice the other room, and bring in 2021 in style.

Copulation in wedlock should not be for one particular spouse; instead, both should settle for reciprocally satisfying sex that they need and feel contentment and intimacy from. This could be a regular fun activity to engage in especially, as both desired, though this could take some adjusting to.

God made lovemaking to be a wonderful experience for both the man and the woman. Your husband is not a sex bull. God wants both man and woman to pleasure each other in real sexual intimacy. Imposition is not fancy or sexy, both should give sexually.

Men should step up their game and appreciate their women- this means being patient when she is feeling plainly tired, sick or not in the mood [assuming these are temporary limitations].

Women if you don’t want to copulate during your menstrual period, be extra flirty, explore and communicate more.

This will help in connecting emotionally, spiritually and physically so that by the time you are done, you and your man will be ready for some fun.

If you care to have a sound romantic sex life, be great friends with your spouse, have time for each other.

Show love to one another, communicate, be dedicated and have fun with each other. The sexual intimacy and sexual freedom will not be sizzling if the relationship is not healthy.
It is not easy to achieve sexual mutuality in marriage if both partners are carrying loads of feelings, and contradictory beliefs into bed with them.

This could be childhood sexual abuse, promiscuity, pornography etc. These kinds of unsettled matters, usually come into the bedroom as hindrance to growing the kind of intimacy couples desire to experience with one another.

Take advantage of excellent communication to handle your differences. For an environment where sexual information is so pervasive, one would have thought we would all have knowledge of what is expected of us but unfortunately, that seems not to be the case.

Usually, men and women approach sex differently. Men’s angle is through the sexual door; a whole different direction from women who want to be emotionally close to their man before they can comfortably enter into sexual intimacy.

If this is absent, it will be difficult for her to indulge wholeheartedly in the physical side. So know this difference and work on it.
Sex in marriage should be mutual; if it is one- sided, couple will never achieve intimacy as it could produce resentment, should they be willing to move towards mutuality in sex.

You being a good lover does not have anything to do with what you need, but your ability to see sex from your partner’s view point, work to understand and meet those needs. You will see fireworks if both partners view copulation as an opportunity to serve and fill each other’s needs.

Genuinely engage in your sexual desires. You will, eventually, find the balance suitable between self interest and generous self-giving.

In the process, reclaim the matrimonial bed as a good gift rather than a burdensome obligation especially, as total lockdown is loading.