Have you ever thought of sex etiquette? I am sure the answer is a capital NO. If you must know, there are do’s and don’ts of what you can and cannot do before, during and after sex in order to prevent uncomfortable and weird situations or to avoid a faux pas in the bedroom.

The very first rule of sexual etiquette is to be clean- This doesn’t mean you have to run to the bathroom minutes before the act. This is about taking care of personal hygiene regularly because no greater turn-off than unpleasant odour and the unsightly appearance such as wearing the same under wears twice. Change the habit.

Don’t be caught unshaven or unwashed on a date because, tendency to blow off your chances of having sex is high.

The second rule is to always start with foreplay–skipping this action will make you look like you only want to get it over with as soon as possible. Try not to rush to penetration after few kisses, understand her pace, wants and act accordingly. Foreplay does not mean kissing, followed by blow job and then sex. Pleasure her and don’t force a BJ, some ladies don’t like going down. So never dunk her head towards your manhood, it can be a major put-off and not gentlemanly. It is okay to ask but never impose it on her.

Thirdly, practice safe sex and it really does not matter whether you are a lady or a gentleman- be sure to always have condoms with you and no sweet talks. This simply shows that you care about your sex life, and want to avoid sexually transmitted infections and unwanted pregnancy.

Fourthly, experiment with permission– you might love to engage in certain sex positions; but do not switch to them without running it by your spouse. It’s compulsory you ask her if she is interested in exploring something new and different.

Some couples at times love to engage in rough sex, it will be nice to have a chat with your mate before performing a play in which you’re the lead actor. It is an undesirable thing to do when you roughly push your partner into your favourite erogenous zone.

This can be a huge turn-off. Share your fantasy and it’s up to your spouse to accept it or not. The bottom line here is in an open conversation which is the only way to create enjoyable and pleasurable moment.

Normal thing to do after intercourse is to cuddle, clean up and just relax. No need to hurry or rush off with putting your clothes back on. There’s a certain kind of charm in staying in bed after sex. Although most people shy to cuddle, relax and take it easy as moments after sex are great for bonding with a loved one.

Very importantly, everything that happens stays between you and your partner. When everything is relaxed, pleasant and beautiful, at that moment, one must not forget the unwritten sex etiquette rules that couples have to abide by.

That is, if they don’t want to scare a partner and destroy their chance for a little casual fun.
Respect boundaries–If your lover ever says ‘no’ that means drop it. But most guys will start begging and often time, go ahead to do what their partners told them not to do. This can be the biggest turn off for women.

Avoid a faux pas in the bedroom and the sex will be much better for it.