It’s that time of the year when we set New Year’s goals. This always resonates with personal goals such as; career goal, healthy eating plans, losing weight, quitting smoking/ drinking or exercise goals but none is ever set for the bedroom.

Luckily, the month of January is that perfect time of the year to invest into your relationship by committing some of your new year’s goals into becoming a better lover, digging deeper into your interpersonal connections, and growing better with your better half. 

 For someone who works with married couples and mature, sexually active singles,  it is safe to assert that most of these people have the worst sex lives.  I really wish more spouses would make having a fulfilling sex life more of a priority especially in a long-term committed relationship. This speaks volumes to the level of intimacy, connection and desire two humans have for each other. A quick reminder that we are created to be sexual beings. The same way we need to be “good” in other areas of our lives, we also need to be satisfied sexually as well.

As a Sex healer and a Bedroom manager, I encourage that you set some Sex goals for the New Year. Indulge in activities that will make you copulate more often, that will bring you and yours closer together, and make you see intercourse as being just as important as all of the other things that you’ve got on your to-do list.

   Set the goals you and your spouse need for a better sex life if you want 2022 to be the year you have the best of sex by engaging in the following:

Prolong foreplay – Most ladies don’t blink during foreplay because there’s not enough time; funny as it may it sound, it’s simply the truth. Another truth that should be stated is that a spouse who’s into foreplay is a better lover. A good foreplay makes for a far more pleasurable sexual experience. So be intentional about turning foreplay into a real art, flirt over the phone and text throughout the day. Give each other sensual massages with some aphrodisiac essential oils, strip tease, explore uncommon erogenous spots. Strongly consider saying “the grace” if you regard sex as a spiritual act so as not to freak out in the least. Go from foreplay to sex and back over and over. Make it a mantra for your sex life this year and there will be absolutely no regrets.

Try a new position every week- There are approximately 245 different sex styles. This means, if you try one position a day, it would take about nine months to cover all of them. So long as you and yours are getting it in once a week, you should be all cool. My take on this will be for you to copulate one day a week more than you’re presently doing. Test out a new position especially as a number of couples complained that sex boredom is one of their greatest sexual challenges.

Schedule Sex – That is if you intend having it less than once in a week. Some couples actually frown at the thought of this as “not romantic”. Scheduling sex is all about perspective, besides coming off as being rigid and planned, it can also give you and yours some much-needed quality time to look forward to it. Knowing that Friday nights for example are marked on your calendar, could be all you need to move from being sexless to being sexually fulfilled.

TO BE CONTINUED…