Dirty talks stimulate the brain- the biggest sex organ in the body even though there is a bit of unpleasantness surrounding talking dirty.

Talking with your lover is a build up to the real act, heightens  sexual tension, leads naturally to physical foreplay, and, an increased sense of passion during intercourse. Once things start rolling, dirty talk can spice things in position where you have face to face contact thereby, allowing your spouse to hear your voice and feel your breath which in turn helps in achieving orgasm quicker.

Dirty talk can help in long distance relationship; phoning to gist or better still, face-timing when you are horny can be a plus, and knowing what to say to excite your man/woman can put both of you in the mood a lot faster.

While dirty talk may not turn everyone on, it does not have to be all rude and nasty. Chatting during copulation can help to rekindle romance, reassure both partners that they are doing a good job. Hearing your mate moan with pleasure, or tell you that they enjoy being with you can be a pointer that you are doing something right, and encourages you to go on to be more daring  and adventurous.

What you tell your spouse has the power to crank up her arousal, confidence and make sex even more amazing for the you. Here are tips to follow:

You have to mean what you say, not because that’s the gentleman stuff to do. Your body language always tells the truth and if not in-sync with your words, she is going to call your bluff. Ladies are superior to men at picking up on these things.

Just be specific, as this makes you sound more thoughtful and shows her that you have noticed something special in her. Go straight to the point, you do not need to be a chatterbox to talk to your spouse. Keep things short and sweet, no rambling.

One of the most fundamental tips in a relationship is communication – It’s just natural that when things get hot and heavy, you should have conversation. Yes, talk that dirty talk and if you have not given it a try during sex or foreplay, it is time. It’s actually less frightening than it seems when you decide to bring dirty talk into the bedroom. It is not all about your partner and their needs, but it is equally about what you enjoy too, and quite a number of couples really love to gist dirty. It feels cool to let it all out. Whether you want to talk dirty in bed through sexting, or you want to indulge in the good old fashioned phone sex, talking dirty during the act is one activity I encourage all couples to try. Here are some salient reasons why it is necessary.

  You get to learn what you are comfortable with. This might be tricky at first as it can make a number of people to feel vulnerable, to put themselves out there in such a vocal way. The truth is, it is really no big deal. There are those who can’t say certain words like ‘’pussy’’ and ‘’cock’’ which if you are sincere, are the words you are going to make use of when talking dirty.

 There is also the question of overcoming how you see them inside the bedroom. As sex therapist, Vanessa Marin’s column for Bustle on talking dirty, explains that it’s totally okay to use words like slut, even though you may find them offensive outside the bedroom. You’re taking control of the word and using it on your terms, and that can be challenging for some women. Sometimes, a challenge helps you define what you’re comfortable with.

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