‘I’m having lots of fun now’ – Toke Makinwa on life after divorce
By Rita Chioma
Media personality, Toke Makinwa covered the debut issue of Fame Extra Magazine where she talks about her dating life, misconceptions about her marriage to Maje Ayinda and how she conquered the pains of the heart break.
On being single and dating again, Toke tells Fame Extra, “It’s tricky! It’s exactly like learning to ride a bike again but I think I am doing very well. Of course, you get the initial stumble and fall off but the key is to accept that things are different now and that’s ok. My first date after my separation, I cried on my way home as I couldn’t believe I was back dating again. The stress and joys of getting to know someone again, the excruciating pain of the past and the will to trust another again. I am having a lot of fun right now.”
Talking about people’s misapprehension about marriage, “People are not honest enough! You are told to keep quiet about everything like showing a sign of ‘all is not well’ automatically means you have a bad marriage. The thing is, everyone struggles, no situation is perfect and if people walked around with a little bit of honesty about their situation, a lot of marriages might survive. Religion is also a very big problem. God is involved in Marriage and he has also blessed us with the capacity to think and make decisions for ourselves. So people need to be less religious and more aware of His love. There will be way less judgement.”
The media personality who recently revealed she has never been this happy in years and is feeling great told the publication, “So much goes on in a home and you are told to keep mute, keep taking, pray till your knees get dark from kneeling (which is a good thing, don’t get me wrong), but a lot of people lose who they are trying to keep up with all of these mandates that doesn’t always work. I am not saying you should go around telling everyone your business; but I feel if we had more people open up about their struggles, and a society that is less judgmental, people will begin to appreciate the beauty of seeing two people work at staying together, and realizing the sheer amount of work required on both sides.”