Shade Okoya celebrates 20 years of marriage to Chief Razaq Akanni Okoya, and she is going all out to have the best time.

Talking with Shade, she shares her joy and the peculiarities of being in a multiple spouse relationship.

There is grave poverty in Nigeria, which makes young girls do funny things. Are you protective of your husband getting into the clutches of desperate women looking for rich men? Do you have a niggling fear, that someday, one desperate – looking- for a- rich -man girl would upstage you? Or you are very confident of your stand, especially after 20years, and going strong?
I have no fears at all; my marriage has stood the test of time, and I am not all afraid. It takes a lot to keep and maintain a home. I am very confident of holding on to my marriage, and I am a loving, caring, honest and hardworking wife. My love for my husband keeps growing stronger every second of the day. I receive the same affections in return from him.

In what ways do you renew yourself, so you do not become predictable, and thus always exciting?
I am a total package. I am a very devoted and loving wife. Everything I do or say comes as an inspiration from God.

They say marriage is an institution. Do you agree?
I agree that Marriage is an institution recognised, but only the loving and caring spouses and through blessings from God can hold it firm. I believe once you enter into a marriage, you should stay in it irrespective of all challenges.

An institution is a place of learning, what have you learnt and how do you apply what you have learnt?
It is a continuous learning process; one can only survive the marriage institution if determined plus, God’s special blessing.