How To Enjoy Pillow Chatting
Ladies and gentlemen, is it true you have been looking for how to carve out time from your busy schedule, endless to-do list and family responsibilities, to work on your marriage/relationship?
In a nutshell, pillow chatting is the way to go.
Pillow chat is simply the act of intimate, authentic conversation that occurs between man and wife before sleeping off during cuddling, or before or after sexual intimacy.
The beauty of engaging in nightly pillow conversation is that, it doesn’t have to be hour-long talk before sleep, and its one of such times couples share their feelings, are truthful and honest with one another, and end up bonding in a very powerful way. And if done consistently, over time, it could help in creating a positive environment for relationship and for health to thrive.
A quick look at this scenario- Lets talk about sex, baby. Lets talk about you and me. Lets talk about all the good things and the bad things that can be. Sounds familiar? Thats because its the lyrics of a Salt n Peppa song. This prolific 90s duo pretty much nailed pillow talk without even trying.
Pillow talk is not always sexual but it is always emotional, says Dr. Jane Fleishman, Ph.D, an AASECT certified sexuality educator. Whether its pre-nookie, post-coital or simply the quiet musings that happen when youre snuggling up.
Seeing that life is so busy, settling into sleep chat may be the only alone-time one can get to talk with your spouse. Pillow talk can keep the sensual bond with your partner fresh, playful and exciting, says Kiana Reeves, Somatic Sex Expert.
Being able to talk openly and intimately is essential in a good relationship says Reeves. And theres something about being in bed that can inspire honest conversation between two people. The bed is symbolically and literally where you share the most intimate moments.
One of the reasons pillow chats work is actually because it allows for more in-depth conversations without self- censorship, and this, is what differentiates pillow conversation from any other kinds of talks.
So it makes sense that this space elicits safety and connectedness. And its not just the physical space of the bed that makes pillow talk so special- its also the way we are positioned, according to marriage and family therapist, Dr. Juliana Morris. Often, the lights are out or we are laying side-by-side, or we are cuddling. When you are not able to see each other, you are able to solely focus on the words being shared, she explains.
You may want to consider pillow talk in case you want some spark back in your sexual life. Pillow talk can help boost activity in the bedroom even though it doesn’t come naturally for some lovers.
Pillow talk is not the same as dirty talk- Dirty talk when indulged in during foreplay and intercourse, can heighten arousal, more intimate time with your lover. Its not the same thing as pillow chat thats more emotionally intimate and vulnerable. Pillow talk can sometimes, lead to dirty talk.
Certain topics should not be encouraged during pillow talk- For instance, you had a stressful day with a lot on your mind, and as hard as it may be, try saving it for another time.
Which brings us to the questions of matters that should be banned from the bed like, ex-lovers, fights, gripes, criticisms and major life decisions. This is to avoid sabotaging your sexual life, as such issues may not go down well with your spouse right before going to bed.
To be continued…