Betty Irabor, publisher of Genevieve magazine, and mental health advocate has identified fathers and husbands as common triggers of mental issues among women.

She stated that the hurts/abuse run so deep and become the catalysts that spiral into a complete melt down.
While we do not have any control over who our biological fathers are, we have control over who we marry. She urged all to be more discerning about who we decide to marry, adding we must protect our mental health space at all cost.

She wrote: “On my book tour journey across Nigeria, I have found that the common thread when we talk about mental health triggers are FATHERS, HUSBANDS. Some hurts/abuse run so deep  and become the catalysts that spiral into a complete melt down.
“While we do not have any control over who our biological fathers are, we have control over who we marry. We need to be more discerning about who we decide to marry.
“Many people stay in poisonous relationships because “I don’t have a choice, I have no where to go, what about my children”? I can’t judge what I don’t understand. Hmmm.
“I would however like to salute the lady who after years of marriage discovered she was married to a  man of very dubious means and left him. ” I took my children and ran away”.
At the end of the day we have to choose our sanity over everything else.
“The lady whose father was the source of her mental health trauma said ” I loved him so much but he always said mean things to me. He taunted me since I was 17 and when i got married he taunted me for not having children. I once tried to commit suicide by  hanging myself with his belt to punish him, but my sister found me in time”.. I told her :sometimes it’s ok to love people from a distance.”
We must protect our mental health space at all cost.”