Women can never be fully prepared for the transition from maiden to mother. Almost all areas of their life change as they adjust to the demands of their new role [motherhood].

And they do not believe that motherhood will redefine their sexuality probably because, the concept is not often talked about in the open, the only stuff that readily gets discussed is when sex can resume after child birth.

A mother’s sexuality is much more multifaceted than this, therefore, authentic conversation need to be had.

Motherhood naturally brings a lot of joys of which intercourse is not usually one of them. Having children with your spouse can be the best bonding connection while on the other hand, it can also give room for resentment, romantic disconnection, and unsatisfying intercourse.

On a second thought, it is copulation that made you a mother and with the arrival of children, having sex becomes a sweet distant memory which ought not to be. Mothering could really be good for your sexual life.

All is not lost to motherhood. You can really improve your sex life but you have to create time for it, as great sex does not happen on its own. Indulging in a truly fulfilling sex after giving birth, requires communication, commitment, confidence and education.

You need to shift focus from seeing intercourse as a chore, to something exciting and pleasurable that you take delight in doing with your spouse.

Time is needed to achieve great love making. It is very understandable that you have quite enough going on in your life, but you are just as important as everyone else, so, you do need to make having pleasure a priority.

This can be achieved by putting the children to bed thirty minutes before their normal bed time, or swap baby-sitting with your sister for a pre-planned night out with your man. This will enable you focus on yourself as a woman, wife, mother and a lover.

Like any warm blooded human, to enable you rekindle your sex life, you need to embrace intercourse with a positive attitude if you want a pleasurable, exciting, healthy, sex life.

This you can do by making it a priority, by giving up an evening with the ladies to have a romantic date night with your spouse. Further more, you need to schedule and put sex on your calendar.

Planning sexual intimacy does not take the fun out of it; instead, it helps to build the rhythm needed for spontaneous real Act to occur.

With motherhood, you need to be flexible; You also need to be flexible especially with motherhood, for instance, if any of the children happen to fall sick, you will need to push special night till the next available day. Just settle for a quickie, go with the flow and you might be in for a surprise at the kind of fun you may have.

But if you throw in the towel after the first roadblock, you will be telling yourself and your guy that lovemaking is not worth working on, and this could only lead to more martial stress.

Never allow sex to always be the last thing on your mind- Whatever it is, do more of it with a little bit of effort and dedication. In your sexual life, this will definitely pay back in tenfold. Your relationship gets improved with great and better sex as you ignite sensuality and embrace sexuality in motherhood.

This enables you connect and celebrate with your inner flame.

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!