AGING EQUALS IMPROVED SEX
Love making at any age can be a powerful emotional experience, and a great tool for improving health. It is certainly not for young lovers only. The desire for intimacy has no age limit; irrespective of the gender, one can still enjoy intercourse for as long as you wish though it may not be like it was in your 20s or 30s.
You might have known in earlier years of your marital bliss what works best for you sexually. Aging, often comes with a more secured self-esteem, and self-awareness as you feel released from the naive unrealistic ideals of youth and prejudices of others. Couples are better able to relax and enjoy each other without the old distractions.
A lot of lovebirds usually stress over sexual activity in their later years, and may end up turning away from any sort of sexual encounters- Feeling embarrassed, either by their aging bodies or by their performances.
It’s quite vital to be ready to try new things, or ask for professional help when necessary if seeking to rekindle or improve. With the right information and support, your later years could be an exciting time for sexploration.
Avoid dwelling on how things would have been different; and, if you happen to enjoy an active sex life in your younger years, there is a possibility that aging will not slow it down except you want to. It is one reason a positive mindset and open mind can navigate the pathway toward boosting your sex life.
Self love- Appreciate and love your older body. Your body naturally goes through changes as you age, accept the changes as part of growth and you will not only feel better, you will also be more attractive to your lover.
It is quite important to communicate with your significant other about your thoughts, fears and desires. Keep the line of communication open and honest and encourage your spouse to do likewise. Having authentic and effective conversations about sex might help both of you feel closer; thereby, making intercourse more pleasurable.
A healthy good sex life at any age involves a lot more than just sex; intimacy and physical touch becomes the order of the day. Get creative, stretch your experience by starting with a romantic breakfast/ dinner before ruffling the bed sheets.
Having an experience together whether sexual or not, it’s a great way of connecting intimately. So never be shy to hold hands, and, touch your man/woman often and tell him or her to do the same.
Go a step further by telling your bed mate what you love about them. Share your ideas about new sexual experiences you might have together by sexploring and sexperimenting. Find loads of stuff that relaxes both of you like, a massage or bath together.
This is good especially because, relaxation promotes confidence and comfort and helps erectile dysfunction and vaginal dryness.
Sexuality takes on a broader definition as one gets older and sex at this point, can mean many things.
Closeness with a lover can be expressed in a number of ways- Sex is not all about penetration, it can also be about emotional pleasure, sensory pleasure and relationship pleasure. Copulation is only one way of having a fulfilling sexual urge. Whereas, on the other hand, touching, kissing and other intimate sexual contact can be just as rewarding.
It’s normal for you or your lover to have different sexual abilities and needs, all you need do is to look for new ways to enjoy sexual contact and intimacy.
Like, I always say, do what works for you. It’s quite possible you might not be as comfortable with some sexual positions as you once were, but that’s not to say you should hang up the boot for an activity that is pleasurable for you. Otherwise, you’d be missing out on being intimate with your spouse.
Remember it’s not always about vaginal sex, or recreating the way things were when you were younger; instead, it’s about the key to a great sex life- Finding out what works for you now like Outer-course sex.
Schedule sex- Change your routine; this can help to improve your sex life. Your calendar can come in handy for this, you have sex at a time that’s most convenient; anticipation and longing is the fuel to your desire.
Foreplay- Is an important activity at this phase of life because it might take longer for you or your partner to get in the mood. Spend quality time on foreplay to set the stage for the real action, like, an evening of dancing, extensive touching, cuddling/kissing etc. Being playful with your mate is important for a good sex life at any age, and it’s very helpful as you age. Teasing or tickling whatever it takes to have fun, may be the ticket to relaxation.
Maintaining a sex life into your senior years is a matter of good health, thinking of it as something that can keep you in shape, both physically and mentally.
The path to satisfying sex as you age is not always smooth, understanding the problems can be an effective first step to finding solutions. Possibility of overcoming these bumps in the road is really high even, when libido get stalled naturally.
Sex is just as healthy and necessary as exercise and like exercise, just “do it” and you will be surprised with the pleasure and satisfaction you will gain. Get back into the act and once you’re back there, you will start to feel better and your sex drive would naturally get boosted.
Know when to seek professional help- Regardless of your age, losing your desire for intimacy and touch, calls for concern. Loss of interest or function may be signs of a medical problem that, may be treatable and curable and that is best addressed by a doctor. Anything that affects your general health and well-being can also affect your sexual function.
Keep the line of conversations open, this is the roadmap to maintaining a satisfying sexual life. Talk with your lovebird, schedule time to be sensual and sexual together and share your thoughts about love making. Let your spouse understand what you want from him/her. Be honest with your feelings, physically, emotionally and otherwise.
Many books are available about how to maintain a healthy sex life at this stage of one’s life, and, if it happened that the problem is not physical, your doctor can refer you to a sex therapist to help you work through any emotional, relationship or psychological issues that are affecting your sex life. The therapist can teach you and your partner, ways to manage problems like lack of desire or trouble reaching orgasm.
Finally, know your body’s sexual response- Pay attention to how your body reacts. What kinds of touch get you in the mood and orgasm? By doing this, you will learn how to keep the passion alive as you age, sexual feelings does not have to vanish as the years roll by.
So, find out which aspects of your sexual health that is likely to change with age and how you and your lover can adapt. Ask yourselves about what is satisfying and mutually acceptable: Sex can still be fulfilling and pleasurable.