By Adesuwa Ewoigbokhan

Lovemaking is supposed to be fun, exciting, comfortable hence the boring sex means different things to different people.

It could be you bored with your spouse or sexual activities, finding sex life unexciting, uninteresting or unsatisfying. It can also be as a result of lack of physical stimulation/regular orgasms or it can be indicative of deeper problems within your union or issues with sexual compatibility.

It’s characterised by a decline in sexual interest, excitement, and satisfaction, leading to a sense of monotony and disconnection in relationships.

Especially as it’s one of the most difficult conversations in marriage.
Most couples are not in open communication with each other and get embarrassed to even broach the topic.

As marriages mature, the initial passion and excitement may wane, and couples may start to feel like they’re stuck in a rut.

In this essay, we will explore the causes of sexual boredom in marriage and discuss potential remedies to reignite the spark.
A number of valid factors can contribute to sexual boredom in marriage, including;

1. Routine & Predictability: When couples continually revert to the same routine and refuse to try anything new, sex becomes repetitive or predictable, it can lose its excitement and novelty as partners may fall into patterns of behaviour that become stale and unfulfilling.
2. Lack of Communication: Poor communication about sexual desires, needs, and preferences can lead to disconnection and boredom, making it challenging to prioritise sex and intimacy.
3. Complacency: As couples become more comfortable in their relationship, they may become complacent and stop making an effort to surprise and delight each other.
4. Unresolved Conflicts: Unaddressed conflicts and resentments can create emotional distance and make it difficult to reconnect on a physical level.
5. Stress And Life Changes: Life transitions can negatively impact one’s physical, mental health and sexual life; including lowering your sex drive/difficult at reaching orgasm.
6. Lack of Time: The hustle culture of living a busy life as couples often end up by spending much time at our jobs, pursuing hobbies, or trying to make ends meet. True, this habits can give one the desired life styles, but majority of the time, it doesn’t always give time to focus on our sexual intimacy.
7. Family Obligations: Younger children/aged parents/family members who need help and support can place a demand on your time and attention. These obligations can act as a sex-romance killer.
   Your ability to prioritise your intimate time with your spouse is essential.
   Don’t forget about fantasizing or trying something new!