Being a woman in Africa is hard and when you don’t measure up to the society’s expectations, you are considered an outcast.

Being a woman in Africa is hard and when you don’t measure up to the society’s expectations, you are considered an outcast Single parenting and divorce is not accepted in Africa and when it’s coming from a woman, she’s looked like someone who committed a sacrilege.

In 2014, South African private banker turned international wealth coach, Samke Mhlongo went through a divorce that saw her lost her home, her car and had to figure out how to make ends meet but she rose through it all to become a successful woman.

In a recent post on her Instagram page, Samke hailed women who are divorcees, reminding us some of the reasons why women leave their marriages.

Read Samke Mhlongo’s note here,

TO THE REAL DIVORCEES ?

To the woman that walks into a room alone and knows she is enough

The woman that wanted nothing more than her marriage to work out, but left when love was no longer being served
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The woman that braved the guilt and shame of being labelled “divorced” because she knew true love is not meant to leave you feeling miserable
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The woman that knows that staying in a bad marriage is not an achievement, and refuses to let society bully her into doing so
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The woman that keeps many secrets deep in her heart to protect her children, her family and indeed, the very people that have caused her pain
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The woman that left it all and decided to start again because she knows that greater is He that is in her, than He that is in the world
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The woman that’s wiped her tears in the car, touched up her mascara, and put on a smile to face another day at the office
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The woman that’s comforted others not because she’s strong, but because she knows how it feels to have no one to lean on

The woman that’s gone hungry on many nights so her kids could have something to eat
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The woman that’s slept on a wet pillow drenched in her own tears, but woke up to fight another day
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The woman that knows that even from a broken heart can still flow love
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The woman that rose from the ashes, when everyone thought it was over for her
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The woman that has decided to live, here, now, because each day is a gift she once longed for
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The woman that decided to give herself the love and life she’d so desperately been looking for
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Here’s to us – the real divorcees, the time to sit in the corner in silence is up
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Rise up, take your place in the world, celebrate your achievements, do not hang your head in guilt and shame
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And know that the love you seek, is already within you
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And may you never stop being in love, with love ?