The strongest bond that joins two souls together beyond comparison in relationship is honesty and trust. These two are undeniably, the core components of a healthy union.

 

Though very rare these days, still, a number of us actually dream of it. It is like a foundation of a house that strengthens its base. Trust and loyalty reinforces the bond of our love life.

Most times, the lines between loyalty and disloyalty can get dimed out, leaving us confused and puzzled. It is important to talk about how the slightest changes can help in building a faithful, trusting affair.

Getting your spouse’s loyalty means you have to be loyal to yourself. This is the first and foremost requirement. You need to understand what exactly you want and expect, before you let your significant other plunge into your life. Do ask yourself what you want from him/her: is it full commitment? Do you need a bit more time to settle down or are you just casually dating and yet to figure out things? All these scenarios are perfectly cool and nothing to be ashamed about in admitting to one another.

If it happened that you are not too sure about your own expectation, then, it will be difficult for your better half to understand you.

This can led to major strife in the affair. Get down to be loyal to yourself first, tell your lovebird what you desire and what you do not want.

This singular act can drastically change how you two perceive each other; thereby, improving your connection and bonding. Do remember that sharing one another’s thoughts and actions, is also very vital especially as your spouse is not a mind reader, not unless you share your thoughts with them they are not going to know about it.

You have to be tolerant and understanding and make sure your partner feels safe and comfortable enough to confide in you.

A situation where you show your lover that you are not scared of being faithful, encourages him to do likewise and this ensures trust and honesty.

Be compassionate and sincere in your approach when having a conversation. If your man/woman decides to open up to you about the one time he or she made a mistake at their duty post, note that they have just made themselves vulnerable to you, and it is your job to protect it. Never scold or mock them for their inability or mistakes, as this may discourage them from being honest in future. It may also make them feel inferior; instead, try to see things from their own angle, why they did what they did, and proffer a solution. Even when it seems unforgivable, there is always a better way to handle it without showing contempt or being abusive. Not only will this help your mate, it will also ensure that they will continue to be honest, and loyal to you in the future without fear of being judged.

Even so, you too must show same loyalty to him/her; share every thought, actions that are important irrespective of how bad it may make you look. If you own up to your mistakes, chances are your lover will see reasons with you and come up with solution. If you are secretive, things can get nasty and reach a point of no turning back. Also, if your partner finds out about your blunder from outside sources, it could destroy their trust and may lose faith from the loyalty of the union. Always make the right decision by sharing before it is too late.

Being honest in any relationship matters a lot. Not deceiving or lying to your spouse, is regarded as one of the most sensitive aspect of a union, as the slightest mistakes can upturn everything. Any action which falls outside your partner’s tolerance zone, is considered cheating particularly when done without their knowledge. Although many people think that relationship is only restricted to having sexual or romantic connections with another person, the spectrum is much wide. Relationship consists of a set of guidelines from each partner. It is therefore fundamental to know what might be obtainable in one union, might not be so in another relationship. These simple steps can prove your loyalty to your guy/lady. You do not have to explicitly engage in romantic relationship with somebody to be disloyal. The instant you start breaking the boundaries of a relationship, the very moment you start doing things that he or she does not approve of, cheating begins. It means you are no longer loyal. In order to play safe, stop right away if you indulge in stuffs that are disrespectful and unacceptable in your friendship.

Keep in mind that trust is only built upon honest truths, as you cannot build a bridge with twigs, you cannot build relationships on lies. No matter the circumstances, always come clean with your better half. When you love a person and decide to engage in a relationship, you have automatically signed an unwritten contract to be there for them no matter how many ups and downs you may encounter. Treat your lover the way you want to be treated.

The ultimate proof of loyalty and honesty comes in being there for one another, even through the darkest time. Sticking together and being loyal through thick and thin, is what differentiates a healthy, happy, trusting relationship from a toxic one.

Note that ‘’it is ordinary to love the beautiful but it is beautiful to love the ordinary’’.