To be sexually confident is all about you knowing that you are desirable and not scared to express it in other to enjoy more sex.

Conquer your fear for better loving making starting with you not preferring intercourse in the dark, stop been conscious of your big flabby thighs, your belly sticking out or your cellulite, if someone has manage to get you naked, they are going to be excited at that moment without looking for your flaws.

Take that shower with your spouse and open up about your insecurities, your will be surprise that your partner has barely noticed any of them.

Start leaving a ray of light on during copulation to enable your partner see the complete you fully naked.

Be the first to initiate if you want sex, ask for it so that you don’t miss out in action just in case your partner does not take the first step, this can affect you sex life if you do not do the needful.

When you get in the mood, express it by taking your spouse’ hand and lead him to the bedroom, alternatively you can whisper sexy words in to his/her ear. You can also decide to put on your favourite boxer for the men, lace camisole and panty for the ladies.

Open up on your sexual desires, try not to hold back about what you really want in bed because you don’t want to be consider spoilt by your partner.

A confident guy/ lady should not be shy about sharing their desires and fantasies with their spouse because when you do not ask, you won’t receive.

Speak up if there a particular sex position you want to indulge in or you want to be touch differently, the more you talk, the easier it becomes.

Wear what makes you comfortable and sexy. It will amaze you what wonders a sexy pair of undies or a silky night wear would for your sexual confidence thus invest on the styles you like though you do not have to wear anything outrageous.

Whatever you pick should be visually appealing to your partner but most importantly it should be able to bring out the tiger / tigress in you.

Get in to the moment as you cannot be confident in bed if your mind is full of worries and non sex related thoughts. So get out of your head by being present with your mate and also be more aware of your own sexual needs.

Allow yourself to be naughty since sex is not some serious stuff, it is not like going for job interview, it just you relaxing, letting go, having fun and sharing yourself with your spouse.

There is nothing wrong with laughing at yourself when a sex position does not go the way you expect hence to this end, you should cut yourself some slack when it comes to your skills between the bed sheets.

If you are let go of yourself by having fun, then love making will feels more exciting and pleasurable.
Begin to see yourself as a sexpot instead of being shy in bed, try feeling more self assured by channeling your inner self to a sex god / goddess.

This may sound flimsy but it actually does works almost every time, when next you have intercourse, truly and honestly believe that you are the best lover he / she has ever had in his or her life and you will end up having a fulfilling sex.

Be adventurous by exploring and experimenting, couples who are sexually confident don’t shy away from indulging in new things in bed. As they actively pursue ways that they believe will boost their sexual pleasure and are re-open to picking up new sexual tips. So be daring, experiment with sex positions, the more you explore new avenues to enjoy sex, the more secure you will feel about your sexuality.

In order to feel comfortable in sharing your sexual desires with your mate, you have to know your body better, know what turns you on and one of the best way of doing this, is to figure out your hotspots by looking and understanding your naked body.

Once familiar with your body in an intimate way that confidence is bound to come through during love making.
Note that your sexual pleasure is not dependent on your mate, knowing well that it is such an incredibly empowering feeling that is exciting and leaves you sexually satisfied.